MARRIAGE FROM HELL ( This Story Will Shake You ) Featuring Roby Ekpo | Honest Bunch Podcast

After 11 years in a long-distance marriage our guest woke up to videos and pictures of his wife on Instagram Getting married to another man. The reason I'm here is because I Feel like men men should speak I'm 48 years old. I don't have a kid What did I do but just look people are are calling me names, calling me what? Eh, he's paid. Yes, I'm paid. I'm paid. He paid me. By the Lord, he paid me. Ten years of my life, he paid me, Baba.

If I had a kid out of wedlock, I would have been justified that, oh, my wife can do whatever she wants to do. Up until now that I'm speaking to you, she doesn't know that I saw this message. God forbid I let another man use me, whether deliberately or not. It will shock him. This is a full month of deep thought and making my decision.

If he wants to be stubborn, I'm here. I am more than ready. He is mad, mad in capital letters. He isn't satisfying me sexually. He isn't helping my spiritual life. He isn't spoiling me. He isn't energetic enough towards any goal.

He isn't anything good. Rubbish. I saw a picture of her sitting in a restaurant

on a man's leg. Right?

It seems like a normal picture.

Let me see. Look at the iPad on the table. on a man's leg ah right? it seems like a normal picture let me see

look at the ipad on the table what do you see? let me see zoom in you can zoom in

let me help you look at the ipad on the table what do you see? on a man's leg

i did a screen record

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Ladies and gentlemen, the conversation today will be very, very intense. I will definitely go all in. I beg, I won't beg everybody when they watch. Pay attention up until the very end because there are important lessons that you will learn in this episode. No need to introduce the people where you always deceive because you don't know them. So, make I go straight into the man where we say we carry calm. Now, ladies and gentlemen, our guest is a fine young man who was in a long distance marriage for 11 years. After 11 years in a long distance marriage,

our guest woke up to videos and pictures of his wife on Instagram, getting married to another man. In his response, and I quote partly, my people, thanks for the calls and messages. I really appreciate your, as he shocked me too. I have overcome the hard parts, make we not talk too much because the story long well well, end of quote here. And I ask you,

Mr. Robert Bamidele Ekbayon, before the shocking revelation of Saturday, April 11th, 2026, how did you meet? Okay, so throwback to 2015. I've been a Bikalawa boy. So, one of the biggest MCs at the time. Um, and I woke up one morning to a message from her. She sent me DM. She said, ah, beg me, can I send her my number? You know how Instagram be that time. Would like pictures, he like my picture, I like his picture, I like my...

She came to my DM, she said, ah, beg me, can I send her my number? It was funny, you know? I was like, ah, who is this person? Because I like, I like, Babes, they get good sense of humor. So she texted me, I texted her my number, so she called me. Apparently, in the on air, because she didn't work on, she was working with Wazubi at the time. So I think her shift was like 5 a.m. or so, starts at 5 a.m. and this was like early, you know how we go wake up for morning now, just the press phone, you know. So I sent him a number and he called me.

So that's how we begin the g's, the talk. Days turned into weeks. In fact, like after a week or two, Seth, income calabar, I said, I get a wedding for Enugu that weekend. So he's like, oh, you try to avoid to pay flight ticket. I said, no, no, no, no, no. Oh yeah, come. When you come, you fly back from Enugu to Lagos because there's no direct flight from... At that time, there was no flight from Kalaba to Enugu.

So Kalaba to Enugu is by road. So she come. That was the first time I saw her.

You know, my brother...

Where did she come to? To Kalaba? She came to Kalaba, yes. Okay. You know, so you fell in love. My brother, he was... I'm too stupid. No, no, no. You're a good guy. Okay, so in Rich, in Combe, you know, my friend had an all-white party, went for the all-white party. In fact, I get pictures, no big deal. Went for the all-white party. The next day we went to Enugu, from Enugu, Enugu back Lagos. And you know, busy. Went for the oil party. The next day we went to Enugu,

from Enugu, And, you know, that's how the relationship blossomed.

They go back and forth, you know. So wait, before we go all this back and forth.

Yeah.

From the beginning, she texts you.

Yes.

You sent her your number.

Yes.

And you were talking for a period of two weeks before she requested to come and see you. Not be you extending the invitation. You know how we talk, when are we going to see? Oh, me I'm at the walk, I'm going to walk. Because I was working at the radio as well in Calabar.

What radio?

Hit FM. I was working with the state radio at the Paradise FM, but that time I'd moved to Hit FM and she said, okay, you can say, okay. She said, oh, you know, okay. I said, okay. Oh yeah. She wants to come to Calabar.

Okay.

Come to Calabar. I have a wedding this weekend. This was in a period of two weeks.

Yes.

And she basically initiated like most of the time.

Most, see, I like women that are up. Because me, I always get DMs, I get advances from women. The ones who I don't like, I'm not going to respond. What made you like her? It was the way she sent the message.

The audacity.

Oga, Oya now, I beg, send us your number. It was funny. So I sent the number and she called and we just clicked immediately. It was funny. You know, so I sent a number she called and we just clicked immediately with the gist. It was, it was, it was, it was great. She came for, after two weeks of talking, she came? Yeah, she came to Calabar, yeah.

On her sleep?

Yes.

No, that the freeze, that on her sleep sound like everybody's asleep. On her knack?

We knack now. Yes, now.

Who initiated it? I don't know how it started but we started kissing from the airport, my brother.

Ah, ah.

Ah, ah.

So this is where...

So the chemistry between two of you, it was intense. It was crazy. The chemistry was off the hook.

Oh my...

I'm a popular Calabar boy. I was everywhere. There were girls all around me. And then immediately she came. Everybody couldn't say, you get one baby, they come from Lagos, come find this guy. She kept going back. We kept going back and forth. She come like one week, I go wait another one week, then I'll go come Lagos.

I was staying in the apartment, 2-5-1 or something. Small cubicle like this, I would date. I would date Ligos 2-3 days, we would date for the same room, you know. Her friends were in, you know how Cleveland gets this thing for people. And, you know, it was mad. And between May, this happened in May 2015, between May and August, I knew I was going to get married.

I proposed on my birthday.

What drove you to propose? What was that thing that made you propose?

We were always having conversations now, you know, and she told me that she was previously married and I didn't care. You know, I didn't care. I said, oh, I'm going to tell you something. Oh, it would either tell you. It would either make you run. You know how you are gisting with somebody. It would either make you run or stay.

And I was like, what is this?

Oh, I was married before.

Okay.

At what point does she tell you that? I can't remember, but who's married. And did she tell you how many times she's been married before? At that time, no.

But she just told me I was previously married and all that.

I didn't even get to know the person's name. I didn't bother to ask. These are the things I didn't ask. I was madly in love. I didn't ask. So, let me ask.

You got together in May. Yeah. you got together in May and on your birthday in August, you had proposed. Before you got together with her in May and then your birthday in August, did you think about marriage?

No, no, no.

Did it cross your mind and say, Guyman, we're fine? I was, I'd be like professional bachelor at the time, you know. I was Calabar fine boy. I was the first MC in Calabar to buy a car. Gig it. I was making, I was living in, my parents were late. My mom died in 2009, November.

My dad died in January. So, and we're just three boys. My elder brother works in Uyo. My younger brother was working with, what they call it, Nijzi at the time. So I was living in a big house, just two of us, me and my brother. So I was living large, I wasn't paying rent, I wasn't paying anything. The state government gave my granny...

I mean, actually, they named the airport in Kalaba after my grandma. So anywhere I go, oh, hey, Mama Gredepo, you know that kind of thing. So I was...

Oh, Mama Gretepu. You know that kind of thing? So I was... Oh, Magretepu. Yeah, that's my grandma. Hmm.

You know, so I was living large. So, I didn't think I was going to ever leave Lagos, leave Kalaba. You get... I mean, we'll have events and the state government will call and when it's my turn, I'll give you an example, say maybe in America, the JFK Airport, you know, can you just, this one that the airport is named after my grandma,

can you approve that I should be flying free, everybody will laugh, you know, that kind of thing. So I was living large, I was, then it was 100K, I was the first MC in Calabar to be charging 100K. I didn't have rent to pay, I was just buying food. No responsibility per se. My brothers were working. I was working. So there was really nothing for me to, you know,

there was no girlfriend. And mind you, because of the kind of work I do, people, they feel say, once you look at me, people would say this boy na...

Playboy.

So they labeled me a playboy in Calabar. If you call my name, Robert, they go,

Aaaaaaah!

That one way like woman. Women always follow me. But the thing is, I never followed through. My friends used to say that I be striker, like a day like striker, I went off his score goal.

That's not striker now. It's okay now. Sorry, we're going to cross her now.

We are going to use the score.

But let's continue. They say Adele, I strike a win of his cargo. So, you know those kind of people that girls are always around them, but they don't do, they don't really do anything with. Girls come to my house, sleep overnight. I don't do anything. When I say I don't do anything, I say I don't do anything. But what makes Maya Wah different?

And that's what I'm saying. You see, it's just like when you see your wife, you will know that this person, they say that the man knows the woman that he wants to get married to. But that intuition, would you say, in hindsight, she was really your wife? At the time, yes. Even at ZATS last year. As I speak to you, even at ZATS last year,

when she came to Nigeria, that I sent money for her to buy tickets and she came to Nigeria.

So...

No, wait. We go back to this last year. Maybe we go back to the years before last year. Now, you proposed in... August. August of 2015.

Yeah.

Just tell us the circumstances surrounding the proposal. Yeah.

Very big in Calabar, doing well, working. Yeah. She lived in Lagos at the time, working also. Yeah.

So how did you people, the conversation around that? So like I said, I didn't think about it too much. So I proposed in August. So at the time, Filmhouse had a cinema in Calabar. They opened a cinema and that time was the only cinema in Calabar. So they opened a cinema and that was when Fantastic Four was premiering.

So they had like a celebrity watch, whatever. You know, my name was on the... So I had to bring people to come and watch it, you know. So while we were at the cinema watching the movie, a friend of mine, I had a gringe with a friend of mine to go and put, you know, petals and all that on the bed

because it was my birthday, you know. So after that, the plan was to go around different hotels because I didn't want us to stay in the house. So okay, we don't want to go. So after the whole thing ended quite late, we now started driving, went to the first hotel.

I don't like this room. Of course, I had already made plans in the hotel. I don't like this one. Let's check this other one. I had a photographer friend that was already waiting for me at the hotel. Went to this other hotel, I don't like this one. Went to the last hotel and they're like, okay, do you have the... So let me see the room. So I'd already planned

with them. So when they opened the room, they opened it, they saw the Will You Marry Me on the... And then my friend took a picture, you know, and all that. Yeah. So we got engaged. And from there, we now went to the club, the club at that time, Calabar had just one club as well. So they hosted me and that was, we started a relationship, you know, I started coming more to Lagos. She would drive all the way from the island to pick me up at the airport. You know, every time I came to Lagos, she used to pick me up at the airport. See, I had never felt like that towards a woman before. Let me not

lie. I had never felt like that towards a woman before. So I didn't even, I didn't think it twice, you know. So we got, in fact, we got married in November after proposing in August 22nd of November, 29th, I can't remember. And I think 29th. I think 22nd or 29th. In fact, the reason why we chose that day was because that was the only free day I had in the month of November.

As an emcee, of course, you know how it is.

Booked and busy.

Yes, so that was the only free day. So that's how I booked my, we fixed my wedding date on that day. Wow. So now you're married to somebody who lives in Lagos. Yes. You are busy, very big in Calabar. Yeah. How did that, how did you manage that situation? I didn't want to move to Lagos because at the time I was doing well. If you, in Lagos, I'm paying almost how much?

7 million, 5 million for rent. That can get you a duplex in Calabar. You'll be a big boy. I'm telling you. So I didn't, I didn't want to come to Lagos, not because I couldn't afford it, but I could afford it in Calabar.

I was doing well in Calabar. I was the first MC to drive a car in Calabar. I was the first MC to always perform for the government. I was doing things. That's how I got to know most of the celebrities in Lagos because they would come to Calabar and we are all in the green room. So when I moved to Lagos, Ah, this Calabar boy, what did he do here? I'm in Lagos now.

Ah, really? And then after a while, she said, Oh, you know what? What do you think of us relocating? Let's relocate now. This was after I moved to Lagos. In fact, comedians in Calabar were using me as material. Say when man marry, now woman they come in house. This one marry, now woman carry and go in house.

They were using me as material. You get? And I moved to Lagos, you know, and it was hard. It was, it was, it was... It was, it was hard because I wasn't getting gigs. I can stay months without gigs. You get? I didn't know that... But me and Abikala, bad boy, I can cook. There was a time we were always fighting because she was always buying food. She would buy food from all these...

It was when I came to Lagos, let me know like... So she can't cook? I don't know, Baba, she no cook for you. Once or twice, but the thing is, it was when I came to Lagos that I found out that they have... What is it with a cook? Mama put. No, no, not mama put.

In pots now, in bowls.

Yes, it's when I came to Lagos that I found, I go to the market, I cook, I can cook. There was a time that we had issues in our marriage and we had to see a counselor or

something. Therapist.

Not a therapist, a counselor. And when I counsellor, this woman doesn't cook. You know, she would beg, she would shout, she would do it. In the midst of the counselling, she busted out crying. You know, making me look like as if I was the bad person. Baba, are they go market, are they cook, are they... See, let me tell you something. Baye has stayed, she has stayed six, this is seven years, seven years in the US.

I never collect one dollar from her. I never took one dollar from her. When she was leaving, I have an uncle, he has a big company in oil and gas. I told him that my wife is traveling, she's relocating. He said, ah, are you sure? I said, ah, it's my wife is traveling, she's relocating. He said, are you sure? I said, it's for our own good, she'll go.

In all of this, I had to lie. We both of us, we didn't tell our families that the plan was for her to go with B1B to do RNG marriage, which I agreed to. And I was, in fact, when they found out last year, my family and her family, they found out last year that it was a RNG marriage, called me and said,

are you aware that your wife did RNG marriage? I said, yes. And the man told me, you are a fool.

Was she the one that talked you into the RNG marriage?

Yes, because it would get her green card.

So she suggested?

Yes.

And then she got the RNG marriage. In fact, the day that she was going to do the marriage, she called and was crying, oh, this should have been you. I was like, don't worry, just for a period of time. And then she told me to delete all my pictures, all our pictures. If you know us, if you know Robbie and Maiwa back then, when Instagram was 15 seconds,

you will know that we used to do a lot of contents. Now let me tell you the backstory behind all those content. Before we shoot one content, we don't fight tire. Because me, I was... I was just... Okay, you would do like this, you would do like this, and then the way she would talk to me to do like this and do like this, it was kind of like demeaning sometimes. So, by the time we...

Because she would... Me, I don't... Up till now, I don to translate or transfer your message. Okay, okay. You have to transfer your message in 15 seconds. So whatever content we're putting out, we'll do it, you edit it and then we post and people like,

Oh, I love this couple, this and that. There was a time my church did a competition for couples and they wanted couples to go to Dubai. They posted couples pictures on their Instagram page and then the couple with the highest likes would, it was us. They paid in 2016 or 20, they gave us $1,000 to go to Dubai.

Everything all expense paid. We go to Dubai. It was as if she was in... My wife is very...

Domineering?

Yes, very domineering. If my wife say... Only two times that I put my foot down and I said this will not happen was when she said, I came to Lagos, I don't get car. She said she wanted to sell the car. I said, if you sell the car, how are we going to be moving around? She said she would buy, of course, I don't get money now. So it was more like I was bossing you around. So I said, no, we're not going to sell this car. That was the first one.

Second one was when she said she wanted us to move to a bigger house. And I said, no, I don't want to move to a bigger house. I like this place where we're at. Because with all these tourists back and forth, back and forth, she tried to tell her friends. We now went to the place after, just before the Aja Bridge. There's one place like that, where the big compound, four bedroom. I just went there because I knew my mind was made up like that.

I was not going to, I've been, where I'm staying, where I'm staying, my house is where, I've not moved out since I came to Lagos. I know people that they will stay in the house and then after a year they move. I just like the places, the proximity to VI, to Lekki is not far, especially now that they've done the route.

But in 2017, you know, I stumbled on a message that she sent to her friend. And I knew that if I screenshot it and sent to myself, she would see it. So I used my second phone to, sorry, let me just read the message to you guys.

So I used my second phone and she doesn't, up until now that I'm speaking to you, she doesn't know that I saw this message. Hold on. I saw the message. And when I showed it to a couple of friends last week, they said, why did I stay? When did you see this message?

I said 2017.

They were like, what?

Hold on. It was shocking. This is a full month of deep thought and making my decision. If he wants to be stubborn, I'm here and I'm more than ready. He is mad, mad in capital letters. The way I will ignore him and live my life, he will pack out on his own.

I already asked him when he's traveling so he can get out of my space. If I had my way, I would throw him out. I would throw him the hell out. When he has sense again, he can come back. Stupid idiot. He's your friend. Better tell him he shouldn't dare to try to be egoistic with me. It will be the last mistake he makes. God forbid I let another man use me, whether deliberately or not. I am extremely serious.

I'm beginning to detest him. And the longer it takes, I don't know what it will become. But before then, he needs to get away from me. I don't even want him staying in the same house. And if he ever tries to have a conversation, I will tell him to leave and give me some space.

Go to Calabar or whatever the hole he crawled out from. Even Jesus Christ knows I have had it with this idiot and can't measure up to a man, immature goat.

Well, have your dinner. that can't measure up to a man, immature goat.

Whoa, have your dinner. Except do fine boy and wear cloths. Jump around, get excited for parties. Even events from the office, it makes me feel like I killed someone if he doesn't go. Trying to compete with me. Any plans for the family?

No. Any plan for income in the near future? No. Only chat and flirt with little girls claiming I'm just being friendly. Foolish idiot, set your family straight.

If you ask him, he will say, I give my wife money. I need you to just know that whatever resentment I have, he slowly walked his way there, almost driving me to depression, almost making me lose myself, making me to apologize for his bad habits.

I don't even care if he loves me or not, because what does love do for me? Besides stress me, he isn't taking care of me as a man should. He isn't satisfying me sexually. He isn't helping my spiritual life. He isn't spoiling me. He isn't energetic enough towards any goal.

He isn't anything good. Rubbish. Meanwhile, sorry I yelled again. I'm just very irritated by him and really is really bad that if he tries to touch me I can scream out of irritation. Dealing with this and then I have to deal with bad news. Nahoo, I've been coping with unsatisfying sex for almost three years and I don't want again.

Nothing will happen if I don't have sex. Plus we can always adopt a baby and he had better go and treat himself and stop lying about not knowing. But she complained about you not satisfying her. Can you talk about that? Satisfying her how?

Baba, I not go fuck him myself. I not go fuck him myself. One? Baba, I don't go fuck ki myself.

Baba, I got married at the age of 37.

I don't look my age. I don't act my age. I'm going to be 48 in August. Now fuck, then go fuck yourself. So are you trying to say that she's- I'm not saying, Baba, but if I knock, I knock, I do all right. If you know Belefu, you don't- She wants, okay, she know the Belefu. She know, she the one, she, he want me to knock steady, steady.

What do you mean by steady, steady? Are they alright? But how much does she want? Every day!

Okay, but really I'd also like to ask. These things that you read is not just sexual. There were some complaints that she made.

Chatting and flirting with little girls.

You used to flirt with young girls and everything.

Oh, blah blah, on Instagram people would send you messages.

See!

So did she ever, did you guys ever have a conversation and she felt dissatisfied by a reaction?

Because something would definitely prompt somebody to... Okay, so I moved when... I'll tell you this. I moved to Lagos. When I moved to Lagos, I was messaging a lot of planners and all that to get gigs, you know. So I was always on my phone. My phone was, it's like my office. Yes. You understand? So she, you can be chatting with somebody and then somebody will send you a message. Hi, you, she, she didn't like the fact that I was always on my phone.

She, she complained about that. But my phone and my office, and then she would tell me, you're too friendly with all these people. You don't expect me to be... I don't... Me and babe done the gist before. When I tell her my age, the girls talk to the call... talk to the call me. She said, you are my father's age. I'm 48 years old. I don't have a kid. I started... I started going for... I started going for sperm...

It's okay.

I was going for sperm tests. I was going for sperm tests.

I'm a Calabar man now. Do you understand? I'm a Calabar man.

I have never in my life had unprotected sex without,

by the way I was the first person that I had sex unprotected sex with.

And she, she went to, I don't know where she went to, she went to bring something, say, make her a drink. She was giving me concoction to drink so that we would be able to have sex. So that she would be able to conceive. Do you understand? I was always telling myself, I was always telling myself, God's time is the best.

My pastor stayed 8 years before he got married. I have another pastor that stayed 12 years. He's, and he said, he stayed 12 years and gave birth to triplets. Do you understand this thing? My wife's traveled six years and I was for the small money I was earning. I was sending money to my wife every time I have receipts here.

I have receipts here. You were saying that I was sending money to my wife every time I have receipts here. I have receipts here. You were saying that I was sending money abroad. I will say I was sending flowers. I had friends in the U S and I will beg them to buy flowers and deliver at her delivery in the house. My wife came back the first time after she got her green card. She came back in 2021. She came back in 2021. We did not stay in the house because people was taking lights.

People was taking light and we didn't stay in the house. We had to go and stay in an apartment that she paid for. No Wala. Did you get it? And she traveled back after a year. After a month. Maiwa didn't bother to come back after, since 2021. I did not see Maiwa wife again until last year that I sent her money to buy tickets to come to Nigeria. She came to Nigeria. I went to pick up my friend. I went with two cars to the airport with my friends.

I gave my friends phone so that they welcome her. I couldn't get a clip of me hugging my wife. You haven't seen your husband in four years. I went to pick you up at the airport and you did not hug me. We got home and she did not kiss me, she did not hug me. I slept in the living room for two days.

I went to her Sabah for an event. Before I came back, she had packed her things and left the house.

Wait, wait, wait. You said she came back. The last time she came back and she did not give you a hug. What was your relationship with her like prior to her coming back?

Oh, what this thing we're talking about. I bought a house in the US. She bought the house after and told me she told me after she had bought the house.

Like, weren't you guys talking every day?

I want to show you something. I'm sorry. I can't let me wear my glasses. I want to show you something. I'm sorry, I can't let me wear my glasses. I want to show you something. Because people are making it... I am paid! People are making it look like I'm a fuckboy.

I only got to find out that they say that she's footing... She's the one paying rent. The house that they were saying that she's paying rent. That the lifestyle I'm living, that she's the one footing my lifestyle. How? When I stopped sending money abroad, it took me three months to save and buy a car.

I didn't have a car. I was driving Timidakolo's car for over a year. It was when Timid gave the sister the car that I told myself, ah, why I got a driver? That was when I started saving to buy a car. I saved from September to December. Last year, I never get car since I came to Lagos. Last year was the first time I got a car. I told myself I was going to buy a car for myself and I bought a car on Christmas day. I gave myself a, I bought a Lexus RX 350. I bought it with my hard-earned money when I stopped sending money abroad. So you were sending money abroad? I was sending money abroad. I would send money abroad and they would call me and tell me the money is too small. How much did they pay me? I would do a gig of 500k. I would send 200k. The receipts are here.

Let me show you, let me show you a chart that I had with my wife. Let me tell you where on... on... on 23rd... No, sorry. 2000... 2023. I went for crossover service. On my way back home, my friend was in the car with me.

Before then, my wife was ignoring my calls. Your own wife. I don't want to talk too much, let me show you. I was coming back from crossover service, and I called her, and I said, hey, happy new year.

It was around 1 a.m. Of course, it would be like 7 p.m. that time. I'm just coming back from church. I said, let me wish you a happy new year. And she was sounding on, I was going, what's wrong? I have that discerning spirit.

I have that way of knowing if I'm close to you and I call you and the first thing I'll tell you is, are you okay? And I was like, is everything okay? And she said, I'm fine. I was like, no, no, no. You've been talking like this for the past couple of weeks. What's going on? She now said that she's tired. This was 2023, December.

Or January 2024. Wait, let me show you. I'm sorry, I did it. I did it.

I did a screen record.

Yeah, hold on. Let me show you.

Now look at the amount of missed calls. Look at the days. It will scroll by itself. Just look at the days. There was a time I said, ah, I'm calling you. You said you would call back. You didn't call back. The only time we talk would be like for 20, 30 seconds. Look at it. It's there.

Wow.

Merry Christmas. You just said Merry Christmas. Wow. To your husband.

That's why I asked what your relationship with her was like.

I don't know. It was yesterday and two days ago that I... It was telling a friend of mine that she had checked out three years ago. But at the same money they collect. Robby, let's talk about that money. And I want to take you a little bit back. You said you took her to your uncle when she first wanted to travel.

Yes.

Your uncle... You missed out that story. My uncle gave her... Okay, so my uncle,, this is 2019, put $2,000 in an envelope and I gave her the whole envelope. My friend that was staying with me at the time, in fact, sorry let me finish this juice, so gave her the envelope and then my friend that went with us to the studio was angry that I gave her all the money. He said, ah you've can come out at least 100 for yourself or 200.

No, take the whole side. I say, no, she's a good Yankee. No walk, nothing, nothing. Making $2,000. The friend that was staying with me is his girlfriend that received her in the US.

Because she was supposed to, you know, like I said, she was traveling back and forth. She traveled like twice to New York. But this is my friend, ex-girlfriend, stays in California. So she was the one, after that day, she, you know, gave her exchange numbers. So she was communicating with her. She left and went to the US, stayed in California.

And I don't know what happened though. The next day she wants to leave California. And she left California and came don't know what happened though. The next day she wants to leave California and she left California and came to Dallas. If you ask Maiwa she will tell you Robert doesn't know what I do for a living. Me, if I ask you when Maiwa got her store, she came back, this last one she came back and I asked her,

how about your salon? Imagine your husband doesn't know that you closed down your salon. How about your salon? She just looked at me and said, it's now that you're asking. Okay, tell me now.

Okay, if I knew, would I be asking? Do you understand? And I said, how about your saloon? And he said, I still don't know what happened to the saloon, but I know that she told me that she bought a house after she had bought the house. So she told me mortgage is 3,500. Baba, how I want to raise 3,500?

In a month. With the small gigs what they get.

It was Timmy that told me, but don't, don't collect, um, shouted on somebody. How can you pay somebody 400,000 for a job?

If I get for 500K, I would divide them. Maybe keep 300, send them 200. You tell me, 200k is not even up to $200. So, you are telling us, Robby, Epo, that throughout your wife's stay in America, she never sent you anything?

I said the receipts are here.

She didn't. She said, what about gifts, birthday? Let me, let me, let me, let me, let me, let me, let me amuse you a bit. There's this book, for those of you that know,

Tintin. Yeah.

Tintin, Asterix and Obelix. So, I love those kind of comics. And they have, I checked on Amazon, they have like a pack. You know, each, Tintin, Asterix and Obelix and the this and that. So I wanted Tintin.

So I asked her to buy Tintin asterix and obelix and didis and that and that. So I wanted Tintin. So I asked her to buy Tintin for me. She said send it to me. I sent her the link. And she said after a while, have you bought it? She said, oh yeah, I bought it. Okay, don't worry. When I'm coming to Nigeria, I'll bring it.

And she came to, how can you claim that you bought? I didn't, I didn't, bro, anybody where they travel will be my friend that knows me. Know that if you travel abroad, UK, US, the only thing I ask for is boxers. I don't wear boxers from Niger. I wear this Fruit of the Loom or Hanes, not the tight ones. I don't like those tight ones, the ones that are free. Or inner vest, Fruit of the Loom, Hanes, or St. Michael, or whatever. Socks, those are the things I ask for.

Anybody who like me can probably throw in a pair of sneakers or perfume or something, but those are the things I ask for. Boxers, inner t-shirts, and socks, apart from the comic book that I asked for. And you came to Nigeria and you claim, you are coming to see your husband and

you claim that you forgot it. You're coming to Nigeria and you forgot the book that I've been asking you for months to buy for me. So in seven years, she never got you anything. Not even socks, maybe socks. In fact, the last time that she came,

she didn't buy me anything. I had to collect socks from... You know how socks come in a pack? I took socks from my friend's socks that he bought.

She bought socks for your friend?

Yes.

And didn't buy anything for her?

Bought me one...

weak t-shirt, I don't know if even we herself. And you were sending money from Nigeria to America, Robby. Baba steady. I have the evidence there. Evidence choke. When you were looking at it, did you see receipts? 2024.

I sent her a million Naira. One million Naira would not be anything, you know. But I sent her a million Naira. I did a job. I was paid 2.5 million. I sent her a million Naira. I did a job, I was paid 2.5 million, I sent her one million.

She didn't even know that I sent her money. It isn't maybe 100K where I sent her because I'd sent her 100K like a couple of hours before. And then I was like, I just sent her. And then when she, I didn't get a response. I was like, did you see what I sent you? you've sent her journal because usually she was the one that they send her journal to. I said, check your phone well.

You will see another zero day that thing, not be just 100K.

Oh, I have the chart here. That's it, oh thank you. The evidence is there here bro. Do you understand? Let me tell you something. Maiwa would say,

I'll call you back.

And she will not call back. My sleeping pattern changed because I was always awake from 2 a.m. to about 6 or 7 a.m. Nigerian time. Because that time, that evening time when she don't finish her work. How can you call your wife for three, four days

and she will not call? She will not call back, she will not pick. My wife bought a house and told me after she had bought the house, oh I bought the house because I wanted a safe landing for you when you land, when you come, you know, we won't have to start looking for house and all that. And then anytime I call her, now when she's't sign moto,

she got a house and got a male flatmate. What?

She got a house and got a male flatmate and said, you know, you know how you can sublet your room?

Yeah.

But why a male? I was not comfortable with it. Nobody will be. But I let it slide. And those were the little rubbish that I... In retrospect, I would look at it and I'd be like,

Ah!

I've been loved but I'm stupid. I'm telling you. There was a time when she came back in 2021 and went back. I would call, she would not pick. I would call, she would not pick.

I would call.

Then we had a big fight because according to her, allegedly, she was pregnant for me when she came. That's what she said, dude. She was pregnant and she had a miscarriage. I did not know. I did not know that she was pregnant.

I did not know that she was pregnant. That she was bleeding, she now went to the hospital, they now told her that she was pregnant and that she was going into depression and that that was the time I was calling to fight her and all that. So she blocked me off, not literally blocked,

but she wasn't picking my calls, she wasn't replying to my messages, responding to calls, nothing. Do you know that I went for, ah, there were times where I would look at myself like this. I say, and because I mean, I'm not a bad person per se, because like I said earlier, women come around me a lot. Women come around me, but people look at me

because of the kind of job I do. I dress well, I speak well. I'm a fine boy. When I did my tattoo, I've always wanted a tattoo. Always. She knows I've always told her that I wanted a tattoo. So a friend of mine did a tattoo,

short, fine tattoo. And I was like, oh, how did you do? She just gave me the guy's number. I called the guy, oh, Akwaebon boy, my town boy, and the boy studied visual arts. So I said, okay, come on, do a tattoo for me. He came, I have a full sleeve. So he did this, this is the first tattoo I ever got. So I did this tattoo and I hid it. And her friend that came to Nigeria one time saw it and was like, ah, great tattoo, da, da, da.

We were on the phone, I was on the phone, video call with Maywa. And the friend came behind her and said, oh, Robbie, I like your tattoo. I saw it on Snapchat because I don't follow her on Snapchat. She now said, what? You did a tattoo?

And I said, yes. And I showed it to her. She vexed, she para. She said, I will go do tattoo. She know, you know how I feel about it. Do you know that my wife has a full back tattoo now? Spine, spine tattoo.

My wife traveled to Miami. Go do BBL. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. She go do BBL. Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait. She go do BBL. And she told me that she went to do surgery for something that would make her be able to conceive. I did not know.

BBL, they help people conceive. Because they increase the knacking. Because you worked with her. You know how slim. I like women with big breasts and I married my spec. I like slim women that have big boobs.

I know. I like women, slim women that have big boobs and my wife, my spec. But after a while, I know, say, how you chop bogar, bogar make your bonbon big?

She went, oh I'm going for surgery, you know, I want to do this da da da da da so that I can conceive and

It was later I found out that it was BBL that she went to do Because why castigate me for something and you go ahead and do that thing?

She made me feel like I was impotent. Baba, I always talk to her, I'm a newbie, I'm a Calabar man. I'm a knack, I'm a knack. Do you understand? I found out I did sperm test, I did sperm whatever, like three or four times because of her. Just to prove to myself that,

or just to prove to her that I'm not impotent. The last one that I did was at one fertility clinic in Nkoyi. I went, they said, okay, you are okay. After the result came out, they said, oh, you are okay. Where's your wife? My wife is in the US. Okay, we'll send you a list of tests to do.

When is she coming? This was like in 2020, I can't remember, 2024 or so. When is she coming? Um, 2020, coming that December. And I said, okay, we'll send you a list of tests that she will do. So that when she comes, and when she sends the results, when she comes, we'll know,

we don't want to, we don't want her to come, and then we start doing the tests. So let her do the test over there. When she comes, we'll now, you know, know what treatment or whatever is wrong with both of you. Because since you, okay. My wife told my elder brother, my sister-in-law,

my elder brother's wife, that she had done the tests and that she would send the result to her. And me, I'm lying that she did not do the test. She kept telling me that I couldn't get doctor's appointment. That you can't just walk in, which we all know.

But she told my elder brother's wife that she had done the test and that she has the result. As I speak to you today, she hasn't still sent that result. Which means she didn't do the test. So it was fertility. From my side.

Okay, so there was a time, because I love kids. My mom used to call me kid of seed of kindness. I love kids. So there was a time that she even wanted us to adopt. So I went to, we went to the, they now said, oh, you can't adopt because you can't carry the child abroad.

Because, you know, long story. I don't even know the whole process. But me, let me not lie, I was always, I was always laid back because I know that I can have my own kid, my own child. Do you understand? The part where I say I don't take care of her,

I don't know about that. When my wife came back this year, was it, sorry, last year, when she came back, I... She landed at the airport, I went to pick her, blah, blah, blah. First day, oh, she's tired, jet lag. I slept in the parlor.

Second day...

She didn't allow you to sleep in the room? She didn't allow me to sleep in the room. Your own wife?

Yes.

Why? What did she say? Oh, she's tired, she wants sleep together and jet lag? Oh, you know I'm hard of sleeping. So if you turn, she go wake up. If you stand up, make you go bathroom, go pee, and you turn on the bathroom light, she'll wake up, she now say I can't sleep. She used to take sleeping pills to enable her sleep.

She didn't let, she didn't allow me. Bro, even if no be anything, to kiss me after four years, you've not seen me in four years. You don't even hug me for airport. People who travel for one week, one month, they jump on top of themselves. It can't be my wife, I never see her for four years. On her birthday, 23rd of April last year, all the plans I made,

I paid for a hotel somewhere in Leky that I wanted us to go stay. that they do this ceramic thing that you can put your hand in your wife's hand, I had made the whole arrangement, she said she doesn't like it.

Ah, ah.

On that day, there's this movie that is trending now that appeared on YouTube, Kule Remy's movie that appeared on that. And that was the day I went to shoot on her birthday. So I went in the morning to shoot.

You are coming to Nigeria. I had planned everything. There was food everywhere. I went to a market. I bought... I love cooking. I love cooking. I went to a place, stocked the fridge. The friends sent food. Our family sent food. I stocked the fridge.

So that morning, went to the room after sleeping in the parlour to go and kiss her on the forehead. She flinched. I went to shoot, got back, when I got back, I saw my friend because my friend was staying with me. So before she came, I tell my guys,

yeah, bye, guy, I better go, you go find where you go stay. So that at least we can have our own time. In fact, all my friends are like, ah, when she come, make sure you say you it's a lie. On her... When I went to shoot, I came back in the afternoon. I ordered for a cake.

She said she didn't like the cake. The flavor of the cake that I've made. My friend came back. So my friend that I told to leave the house came because it was her birthday. So he came.

I was not at home. So he met her watching TV. How far? I never chop since morning. Why? He say no food for house. Ah, food, food, full house.

Is the house that you left. Nothing has changed in my house apart from maybe I changed the chair or I bought a bigger TV or I bought the, I have a bar in my house, you know? He said never chop. Now my friend, I am boil rice for him. She was telling people that there's no food in the house.

My friend now said, okay, let's go here. You know, I don't feel like, she now says she wants to go and do salsa. I don't like salsa. I don't know how to dance. So most times I would drive her to go and dance. I would sit down, be watching boring salsa. They'll be dancing, I'll be watching them. Do you understand? She now says she wants to go and do salsa, and her friend is coming to pick her up.

The friend is my friend too. We keep calling this guy, 6 o'clock, 7 o'clock. Baba, where you at? Oh, his wife took his car out, so he's waiting. Baba, my friend now says, when was the last time you ate grilled fish? a long time ago, yeah, let's go to, what's that place in like Kingfisher or something. We went there, invited a couple of my friends, Timmy and the folks, we sat down and even

across the table, Timmy was texting me and saying, bro, are you okay? Because he knew something was wrong. He was, bro, are you okay? They brought the bill, she wanted to pay, it's not normal when you want to pay. Baba, I didn't make money. I didn't divide money. If I make 400k for an event, I would divide it. I would send her 200k. So you were sending her about half of your income. Yes.

I did do children's party. I have a video. What was that? I have a video of me jumping on bouncing castle so that I can send money.

Hey.

With children. bouncing castle so that I can send money Hey

with children to somebody else's wife allegedly then

after we finished eating fish and everything they brought the bill she now wanted to normally before if you say how much would it be? I say okay 200k. You say okay. I say okay. 100k I get. You know how husband and wife they do. She says okay I will send you 50 or 100k. Maybe I'll pay. I say okay. This one she now... I was prepared for her for her coming. It wasn't...

When we got married they asked her something. They said, this guy... In fact, they had like a meeting after all these things started happening. Because she come, they say, you know, do it again, you know, do it again. And auntie asked, are you sure there's nobody else? She now started crying, saying, no, that... In fact, after him, I'm not getting married again. In fact, she be... I can still file for him. That's what she told me when we go back that night from her birthday, that Robert, we need to talk.

You are coming to Nigeria. You transit through Turkey at Istanbul. You did not call me that, oh, we don't reach Istanbul. It's another so-so-so-and-so hours before I take my flight. Let me call you. Oh, Iran, okay.

Ah, where are you? I'm't wait. I go, nah, I don't know. We need to talk. We need to talk what? Come back first now. Do you understand? So that day when we got home from her birthday, she now said, we need to talk, we need to talk. I now said, okay, what do you want to talk?

I had an event in Asaba the next day. She now said that she's tired of the marriage. I say, why? Now, here's the thing. Anything you ask Maiwa, why are you not interested in marriage? She'll tell you, I was the one when he came, the first two years when I moved from Lagos,

that things were difficult for me. I was the one that was doing this. He doesn't give me money. How I won't give you money when I know they earn money at the time. I can brag now that if you see me hosting a wedding or an event, the least that they would pay me with a beg at 2.5 million or 2 million, with a beg, a beg. Do you understand? So I had consistency in my craft, had made me, you know, I was still posting and still doing my 100K gigs, you know, and then she told me she was done and I was like, why?

Robert, you know, I'm not feeling... She told me to my face that she's not sexually or emotionally attracted to me anymore. My elder brother looked at me and said, guy, you don't look yourself. After all this, my elder brother looked at me and said, have you looked at yourself on the mirror? Boy, you're a fine boy now.

Ask anybody that knows me, you say, if they say, fine boy, I would say, no, no, that's how I used to behave. Made me feel less of a person. You say, oh, I like dressing up. I like dressing up.

Like if I get a couple of, in fact, I found out, I learned that from my friends. They say, nah, who do you like? Nine Guild Pupils. So if I get money from a gig, I'll make sure I buy something from that money

to remind myself, I'm a shooper, I love shoes, I love wristwatches, I love perfumes. You understand? So any gig I get, I must buy something from that gig. She would say, eh, you don't spend on me. I would buy perfume in Nigeria and send abroad. Ah. If you feel like I'm lying, come out, come talk to him.

Not once, not twice. I go buy perfume for Nigeria.

I will give them, they will send them to her or they will go deliver. I have friends that have gone to her house on their own. Baba, you do America, beg me, buy flowers and chocolates now. Or buy, they say, buy what doesn't drink or rather she made, I don't even know, Sef, because on her birthday, she was smoking shisha. This is somebody that doesn't, you can say they drink, but on her birthday, she was smoking shisha, drinking alcoholic cocktails.

But you say you don't drink. And then all this happened. And I'm like, like I said, I was madly in love. I was stupid. See, I was what they call a male simp. I swear to God. I was what they call a male simp. I was, ask anybody that knows me. I was posting her steady. Maiwa told me to delete all our videos, anything that had to do with me and her.

I should delete it from my page. And you too, you listen. I did. She changed her name. Her name was Maiwa Iku on Instagram. She changed it. This is because of the RNG? Yes, but I mean, you don't get your green card to... Do they rescind it? Do they recall it? I don't know.

I know people that have been in the US for 10, 15, 20 years, they never get green card. But you travel to the US and in less than a year and a half, you got your green card. you came back in 2021. You understand? That time I still never solid like that. And the mistake I made, see, I would say there are a lot of mistakes I made.

There were a lot of mistakes that I made in marriage, a lot. And I beat myself up because I would have said, I would have put my foot down and say, come back once every year. Do you understand? Come back once every year. Do you understand? Come back once every year. Because we don't get picking.

I'm 48 years old, I don't have a child anywhere. If I had a child, and my wife say no do again, saying yes, I had a knock around or I get picking from somewhere, I would have been justified that she left the marriage.

I would pour my love on that kid. No woman can come out and say, Robert, don't give me belay before. Never. I'm proud of saying that one. Any day, anywhere. Because I'm very careful.

Let's talk about this marriage. You said... You congratulated her. I said it was her third marriage. So that means if you add the arranging marriage, it will now be her fourth marriage. So that means if you add the RNG marriage, it will now be her fourth marriage. Well, for information reaching me now,

that with the RNG marriage is the fourth one, is the fifth one. Ah! You marry Samaritan woman without... No, sorry, sorry, jokes apart. Sorry. That's me being insensitive. That's what I heard.

I don't know. You came to Nigeria, you said you're not doing again. We had family meeting. We're not officially divorced though. We had family meeting.

They say,

why do you want, why are you not, why do you want out of this marriage?

My Robert doesn't take care of me. But that was then. Anything that Marowe was saying was before she traveled. After she traveled, at that time, they make more money now.

Can they divide your money? They divide and send to her?

Yes.

This family meeting we're gonna get, who were the parties involved? And which year did you have this meeting? It was when she came last year. 2025? It was when she came.

So before now, so the whole of my 2024 was the worst year of my life.

Because like I said...

Are you relieved? Ah, no. I don't pray anybody should go through was the worst year of my life because like I said... Can you relive it?

Ah, no. I don't pray anybody should go through what I went through.

And guess what? I was always jumping and laughing and people didn't know what I was going through. I was jumping and doing events and playing and what I post. People didn't know what I was going through. What were you going through? I would call my brother.

And I would cry on the phone and I'll be like,

and he'll be like, why are you crying? Are you alone in the house? I'll say, yes. You see, he will now call Timmy. Timmy will say, where are you? I say, I'm in the house. He'll say, yeah, come to my house. I'll go to his house. I'll say to me, I've been trying to reach this woman for four days. But you say, eh? Okay, wait. Wait, you have been trying to reach her. How do, what do you mean? On the phone. You'll be calling her for four days. Your own wife.

Baba, the day here now.

The evidence is here.

Oh my God.

Was that before she came?

Yes, before she came. But, why you, I then find out that she said she don't check... She told my friend that she had checked out three years ago. So you checked out three years ago, but you're still collecting money from me. How... when was the last time you gave her money?

It was...

just before she came. In 2025?

Yes.

How much did you give to her?

I dashed her a million Naira. Just before she came? Yes. Which is about $600,000. $600. Yeah.

That's a lot of money.

So, I mean, I know that we're running fast.

I mean, if I give one million naira, that's a lot of money, bro.

It's a lot, even in America, it's a lot of money.

$600 is a lot of money. I know people that earn less than that in a month. Look, I know that we're running fast, but I'd like to take us back a little bit.

Okay.

When did this change in attitude start?

So I think maybe it was before, I think it was when she started, maybe she was dating someone.

At what year into the marriage?

When? Abroad or here?

There. I don't know about here.

Were you guys talking every day?

Yes.

When she traveled initially? Yes. Even when she came back in 2021, we were still chatting. She went back after a month, we were still talking. So in 2021, you guys were having your normal sex? Yes, when she came. Yes.

So what do you think happened between 2021? She met some, I'm sure she met somebody because bro, you know, if you just, you know, if you just check out like that. Were you saying things?

Were you being jealous on the phone?

No.

Were you being toxic?

No.

See, if I call my wife and tell me I'm busy, I'll call you back. I'll hang up. I'll say, okay, when tell me, oh, you know what I've been doing from there. I went to church. So then I went to home and then I've slept off.

Did you ever confront her to ask her or did you ever have a feeling that, oh, something might be wrong? Maybe you're seeing somebody else.

So because of the distance, I never always wanted it to look like I was the one fighting every time because the only medium that we have if I send my wife a DM on Instagram if she post something on Instagram on her story she'll tell me to do why you start why you sending me message here why you sending message here send it on whatsapp and yeah that they check they check you know what did they immigration I don't know whether they check

immigration or no woman you see message from your husband.

I swear to God.

Was she working in the CIA, the FBI? No, she was working for this financial consultant, people that check all this fraud. Financial analyst. What year was that?

Up till now that she's married.

Because if she was still married at the time, then okay. But after her...

Married at the time that what?

Like the contract marriage.

No, she had gotten her green card.

No, she had gotten her green card now.

She had gotten the green card in 2021.

Yes.

She had become a citizen. Don't get green card. Now just passport, now remain. Abi?

Hmm.

Okay.

Um... Okay. I wanted to ask you something. What kind of messages were you sending by DM? Normal, like if your wife posts her picture, I'll be like, oh, see my beautiful wife, or fine woman, or Ms. Zekbo, or something like that. And she say, delete it, delete it. Girl, let's go to...

I've told you not to send me... I've told you not to send...

See ya.

Okay, now that you don't get sense, what do you think was the reason why? She was seeing someone. And the person had access to... Maybe, yes.

Yes!

Because number one, first off, okay, so you come to Nigeria and they ask you, what did Robert do to you? And you now say, eh, that he wasn't taking care of me and they were like, hold it. This guy was there, no? It was before you came, four years don't pass.

A lot has happened in four years. He's making money now. Do you understand? He's getting gigs. Baba, last year alone, I went to four African countries. You know what it is like for them to take an MC

from Nigeria to go and MC 50th birthday or wedding or something. This guy's traveling, he's making money. What's the problem? People sent... I didn't see it. Okay, tell us about that day. How did that day start? I woke up, I went to the bathroom. Just tell us. It was like a normal, every normal day. And as much as, as, as, as, as much, like I said, I was, I was crazy in love. My friend who would tell me, block her, you know, so that you don't see her stories.

And I was still checking up on her stories, let me not lie. And there was one time, I'll show you this picture. There was one time I saw a picture of her sitting in a restaurant on a man's leg.

Ah.

Hold on, let me see.

Show you, hold on.

Somebody sent it to me.

How did the person get it?

I'm coming, let me... Of course, the person is full of...

It's him.

Come back home.

Let me show you.

Let me show you.

Ah!

Oh, no, Fagun.

Let me show you. Okay. Oh Lord, how I go? Let me show you. Okay, now look at this picture. It seems like a normal picture. Let me see. Look at the iPad on the table. What do you see? Let me see. Zoom in.

You can zoom in.

Let me help you.

Look at the iPad on the table.

What do you see?

That's hard.

On a man's leg.

Let me see, let me see, let me see. It was a normal picture, you just did like this. There's an iPad on the table.

And then you're like this.

Wearing the same shirt. The same shirt, so it's at the same restaurant. It's the same restaurant. Look at the picture. It's the restaurant, right? Yes. Let me see when I This was in May, no sorry, June 2025. After she had come and gone back. And then the family meeting. There was no resolution.

There was no resolution like, see, because, okay, let me tell you another, sorry, let me... Look at the picture, like a normal picture, yeah? Now zoom in, look at the iPad.

Let me show you.

Okay, there's another picture on the iPad.

Inside the picture. So, there's a phone here now with a picture on the phone. And then somebody takes me a picture and then it appears. So Nigerians are, they are FBI and CIA joined with KGB, everything, Scotland Yard, Buwetibu. So somebody sent that to me. And I was like, what? There's another picture.

I don't know where that one is now, but there's another picture where she was like this. And you know all these restaurants that have glass mirrors? So she was like this and it was a man that took the picture and if you look at this picture, it's the same man she got married to. Look at it now. Look at it. If you look at the wedding pictures, you'll see that it's the same man.

It's the same guy.

I looked at the wedding pictures, I actually thought it was you. Baba, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, not to shade anybody.

And he has a full sleeve tattoo.

The guy has a full sleeve, full body tattoo. And yet, because I do tattoo, you suck, say, you don't, you, you... Baba, leave, leave, the male flatmate. You said she bought a house. You were not aware. She told me after she had bought the house.

And then she got a male flatmate. Then when I asked, why is the guy staying in your house? She said, oh, that she subletted because of a mortgage. So she collects rent from the guy only for me to find out two days ago that the person that she was staying that she claimed was a flatmate was sleeping with her. Is it the same guy she married?

No.

How did you find out?

Are you sure now Robbie?

How did you find out?

Someone told me. How close is the person? Are you sure now Robbie? How did you find out? Someone told me.

How close is the person? Is he from a reliable source?

Yes.

I found out because the person called me to after all these things was going on. The person had come to Nigeria before. Her friend.

The person had come to Nigeria before.

So it was her friend that called me to tell me.

What kind of friend is that? Or do they have an issue?

I don't know. So you people have mutual friends?

Yes.

Like people who know the both of you together? Yes. But now from, from, because the, the, the, the, the narrative out there is that she's, she was funding my lifestyle in Nigeria. You know, the house that we're staying in. He said, matrimony! I didn't pay rent! That she's the one paying rent.

For God's sake, we are married. If we are married and there's no water in the house, you can buy water. If generator spoil, I don't get money. You can fix them. She came to Nigeria in 2021.

And when she came,

she was in the US, just two years old. Come, oh, heat, da, da, da, da, so we ran and... Nepal didn't give light, unfortunately, that day. We ran Jen 24 hours. So while we were sleeping, I hear, bang!

Went out, it was generator, the engine don't glow. You get. So I do this savings app on my phone where you can save like maybe 5K or 10K a day. You can save daily, weekly or monthly. So that was in 2021 Because I still have the receipt. After all these things happened last year, I was telling my sister-in-law, I went to that app and I screwed down where I redrew 100k,

where I get for that. And I gave her, I said, look, I don't get money now, but we need to change this generator. Because of course, where you are, you want to stay. No lie, generator don't spoil.

She added money to the 100K that I gave her, bought generator. But the narrative now is that I came back to Nigeria, I bought generator. So, you are confirming here now that as a man, as a provider, you were responsible for her financially? Yes! At least, like I said, I did divide my money. Into two?

Yes.

Let's talk about children.

Hmm.

Did you people have any conversation about children before she traveled?

No.

Were you actively trying?

Yes. Well, yes. Yes.

So, you know, say we define picking. She herself know, say she define picking. And too often, I did do, you not say we define Peking. She herself not say she define Peking. And two of them now they do amatively for that end goal.

Yes.

But like I said, I was, I wouldn't make that mistake again because I'm not going to allow her to travel. Because when the family said, why did you allow her to travel? I didn't have what to say. I didn't know what to say. Her own family asked you? Why did you allow her to travel?

Robert, you messed up. Why did you allow her to travel? Robert, you are a stupid man. Why did you allow her to do her NG marriage?

Oh my.

Do you understand? It was love because But what could you have done to stop her from travelling? What could you have done to stop her from traveling? What could you have done? Let me tell you something. When my wife opened her salon in the US and when she came back, and that meeting that I said we had in the family, I was the only person that was...

Her family is not in support of her. This marriage, what she do? None of her family members go. None of her family members did the wedding. This one that happened a few days ago. Her family is not in, you understand. When she opened her salon, she now announced back and forth argument,

oh you're paying rent for salon, you're paying mortgage for house, you're paying insurance for car. If I told you not to open this salon, would you have listened to me? She said no. That's the kind of person Maiwa is. If I say something, she go find a way,

argue with me. Then me, stupidly, I will come and agree. Let's not do this now. Like I said,

the only two times that I agreed to do something,

that I did not agree to do something, was when she wanted to sell her car, that I refused that. And then when she wanted us to move apartments, and I said no. Every other thing that Maiwa said, let us do. I know they think I'm twice. I will say yes. I know they think I'm twice. I will say yes. I know they think I'm twice.

She went... Let me give you a story. There was one time she was giving me concoction to drink. I don't know where she went to bring that thing from. So, we're supposed to drink it every morning or so. Both of you or only you? Both of us. For childbirth. Because me too, I say I don't forget to

When we had the meeting, the family meeting, one of our uncles stood up and said, they know burning wife well to give them concussion to drink. So the concussion not to help, to help fertility or whatever, where I be. I be fertile man. But both because I wanted her to be happy at the drinker. So did you suspect anything? Like you and your wife, they actively fine picking.

Bro, I'm now hearing that she was taking contraceptives.

And I'm...

How did you hear?

What?

You know, because story... They say in our talk, the brain talk. So when I say in our talk, the brain talk, we are looking for children and I'm now hearing that... I remember that time we...

when I be talking to you, you know, you know, say your wife been taking contraceptives.

What? Ah!

So...

Bro! And she's making you do tests. I said I did three, at least minimum of three sperm count tests and I was okay. I went to, what's the name of this place? Mikyo. I went there twice, then I went to Origin Fertility once.

And each time you're okay?

Baba, I sharp die.

So when she went to America, because you were married two years living in Nigeria.

No.

2015, four years living in Nigeria.

Yes.

Before she permanently moved to America.

Yes.

In that four years, you had tried for Peking. Yes. And you had no sea. Yes. And when she came for 2021, of course, when she came now,

we did,

then she went back. Then we had that fight. We were saying she had a miscarriage and she didn't know. And then I was angry. I was like, how you go get belay? I didn't know that women, they get belay, they don't know.

It's possible.

Yes, I didn't know. But according to her, that's kind of like made her feel like I didn't care. Because why would she tell me we're looking for a child and I get miscarried and all you're saying is why didn't you tell me? Why didn't you tell me? I didn't ask how are you? No, nothing. I didn't see any evidence. No evidence of anything.

No paper says pregnancy stripped. Nothing. But she just told me that.

Even the process of like when she was going through it?

Nothing, I didn't see any receipt bro. Because miscarriage for America, you have to spend 20k. You have to spend 20k. So in the period that she was living in America, did you have any mutual friend like, ah, now my wife, now my wife, when they close to her,

when maybe sometimes people say, ah, you don wife, now my wife, be that oh, when they close to her. When maybe sometimes, people say, ah, you don't see my wife this week.

You know.

For there.

Eh, no, I didn't.

Now, let me ask you.

I need, so, so, sorry. Just to answer you. In the sense that, let's assume that she's my wife.

Mm-hmm.

Abroad. this one will be my guy. There was a time you said that your guy ex-girlfriend now you welcome her. Yes.

They come Korea now.

They come Korea and then one day West side she moved to Dallas from Fresno. She was staying in Fresno, California now. So she moved from the West side and two of them Korea. In fact, so let me tell you something about Maiwa. Maiwa is this kind of person that she's very...

For those that know her, that you know her, you worked with her for years, Maiwa is very vindictive. If I am your friend, if this is Maiwa's friend, and Maiwa quarrels with this person, she will make sure that you don't talk to her.

There are a lot of people that's

where that I wanted to get close to because I was in Lagos, I know they do radio work. I wasn't working.

But why? She was working on the radio and they were...

Because she didn't want me to get close. Oh, Kool FM is toxic. Everybody there, they sleep with each other.

No, no, no, no.

Don't...

She made me hate you, she made me hate Nwedu, she made me... Me? Yes! She made me hate you. My God, Mayowa and I were cool. As in, what did she tell you about me? Baba... She made me... She made me hate y'all. Because she was working with y'all.

Made me hate y'all. It was after she traveled that I got closer to y'all and I... You know? and I got closer to you, you know. It made me hate you. I didn't have... Now radio we day now. Now radio we day, so... We are all supposed to be...

I was even looking for a radio gig in Lagos. I couldn't get because she said, look, that place is toxic. No, they fight, then they knock themselves. Kul FM, Wazobia, and Nigeria Info, they do, do, do. Oh, I'm glad I left that place. That place nearly killed me and it did depression. So that's why I didn't have, I don't have friends.

I only became friends with Dotun because last year, a bit two years ago in the gym, in the gym, the gym that I go to, that's how me and Dotun started talking. I talk to an Arsenal fan.

You understand?

I know you and I have had conversations before on Instagram. I remember when I was verified one time that you asked me if I paid for it or something, something, something. And me and you, we talked now and I know that you are in radio and I know that I can, even if you're in, the thing about radio is if you know about every other station as well, not only your station. So you know if there's an opening somewhere. You understand?

So there's nothing wrong with saying, oh, that if it's a beggar, they find work. Okay, this place don't food, but let me talk to somebody that's in so-and-so FM. But I didn't do all that because she made, she ostracized me from every other person.

You understand? I want to go back to the time she told you that she had been married. The first time when she tell you, say, I don't marry you. That's why I said, that's why I said that now. That's why I said that I was in love. I didn't, I know two reasons now. Oh, I was married before, it will not make you leave or stay.

I say, oh, you okay. You don't marry,, don't marry, don't marry. Now, was I not married before too? Oh, you were? No, I mean to her now.

Okay, now somebody else is going to marry you.

Since we are here about the marriage and you said this whole Samaritan woman narrative, the five, who are the people?

I don't know.

So how do you, okay, that means if you say that, that means it's an allegation, it's not confirmed. So, so, so, that's why I said allegedly, she didn't tell me I'm married to, I was married to three people or to two people. Just said I was married before. And in my head, okay, we were married before. Okay.

I didn't ask who, I didn't ask when, I didn't ask what happened. I didn't ask whether they beat you.

You know?

And I didn't say I was stupid. I was because I was in love. You get, so it was just a case of, I wouldn't say ignorant because, I wouldn't call it ignorant, but I was in love and I didn't know that,

you know, all this was going to backfire to me. If we were cordial, there's nothing wrong with oh um people they people they divorce now they still they talk to themselves whether they get Pekin or not you know. I want Mario fine fine. Okay, me safe. Because I know say, as a day in her mind, I know lie you, I know if he travel abroad again. I know if he go there, go there. I did make my money here. I've gotten to that level where I can't go and start all over. My one wanted me to go back to school. She was always telling my elder brother, you should go and get his transcript at 47, 46 year old. You can go back, go to school.

You said she bought the house so that when you come, you would have a self-learning. Did she ever file for you at some point?

No, she never filed for me. Now let me tell you, I applied to the... Now this one is another story. So I started doing... I started so that I would build travel history. I applied to the UK, I was denied.

I applied to the US twice, I was denied. The second time that I was denied, so it was when she was in Nigeria, this last year that she came. It took me a year and four months to get a date for interview.

And people said, because the first time I was denied was in Lagos, said, oh yeah, let's try Abuja. So I applied for this thing in Abuja. And while she was around, you know, and I went to Abuja, the chat is here.

Everything is here.

I say, oh, okay.

So in my head, I'm like, so maybe it was a blessing in disguise that I went and I was denied because what would have happened if I went? Because women have power abroad. Women have power abroad. I would have probably been kicked out because I saw a message, the message I talked about earlier in 2017.

I didn't know, I didn't tell her about it, but I was still hoping and believing. If that is not stupidity at its peak. I don't know what else. There are some men that will see that thing and they're out.

Sharp.

So, in the period when she was in the United States of America, because I'm trying to think of maybe situations or scenarios that made her feel some type of way. Remember that in the message you read, she had said chatty and flirty with small girls. Did anything happen that maybe put her in a situation where looking at you, they trust no day? She didn't trust me.

Right from time.

She didn't trust me because she felt like all the people I was, all the girls I was chatting with, maybe I didn't knock them, I don't know.

But...

What do you do? You follow them talk? Nothing, my brother, nothing. But you do chat with girls? I did chat with girls, I did chat with guys.

You don't chat with girls.

No, but you do chat. Robbie, did you ever cheat on her?

No, I did not. where I think in the video they said girls that are following my husband

Oh yeah that time was so cool

you know but in hindsight it looked like oh you guys had an understanding that okay I'm not around but I don't really care about if my husband is having anything

No no no I know I know I say my friend I tell you now say my friend they tell me say I did like striker. We know, we know this. Don't bring up us now. But I get, I did like striker. We know the score go. Do you understand? I, I'm a good man. I'm a good man. Let me not lie that I'm a good man. I put my wife first in everything I do My friend people that know me know I was flaunting my work anywhere I wore my ring to you even after all that thing happened. I wore my wedding ring all this on a fashion ring I wore my wedding ring to I think I took on my wedding ring

last year October or so I took it out last year and I officially unfollowed her on Thursday last week. You officially unfollowed her on Thursday last week? Yes. The day, the two days before her wedding.

Because I didn't want to start seeing, people told me, oh she's getting married on the 11th, I said, getting married where? They now showed me because when you do Bridal shower, Bridal shower I know they take before they married in the Abbey. It's like a night or two before.

So when they showed me the Bridal shower videos, that's when I now said, Ah, no, I don't want to. I don't want to be in that headspace where where I'll be seeing wedding pictures and all that. And like to say it, we were not officially divorced.

We're not.

You go before registry? We do traditional wedding before she travel.

So no return of bride price?

No, never return bride price.

So she's still married to you?

That's what it is. When was the last time you spoke to her? Okay, so after she left Nigeria last year, May. So I was going to say this but I forgot. After the whole back and forth, I'm not doing it again, dadadada, I was like, no, now let's fly and work this out.

I'm not the man that used to, I've changed, I mean, my income has changed too. I'm a different person now. The Robert you know, in 2015 to 2019, or 2021, he's not the same Robert now, you know. And he now said, delete your, delete, don't block her, don't call her, don't call her. So I called her and I said,

let's see before you travel so that we know, you know. So we went for a late dinner, one of the restaurants in VI. She sat down, I sat down, ordered for food, and we're talking, and I was like, man, I'm not going to do this,

but we have to find a way to, you know, she's now said, okay, you know what? I'm going back tomorrow or in two days, and, you know, let's see how it goes. You know, when I get back there, even if we're not together anymore, Shah, but I will still fight for you, da da da.

I came back and I was like, hi Robert, where are you? This was on a Friday, she was leaving on Sunday. And that Sunday I had a baby dedication, that's Sunday. After service. So that's Sunday. After service. So that's how, and I'm sure if I did not have that baby dedication, I would have gone to the airport to see her.

That was the only reason I did not go to the airport to see her off, because I had an event that day. So after she left, after she left,

you know,

called her two days later, oh, you don't reach, you never reach, you don't reach, you never reach. And then I now sent her a message, called her, where are you now?

Oh, sorry, I saw your missed call, jet lag, okay.

After three days?

Yes, she left on 11th, this is like 13th. 14th I called again, she didn't pick. 15th of May, I now called, she was driving. And I said, you know what Robert, I'll call you back in two hours. Till today.

And you never called back again after the, I'll call you back in two hours.

So maybe she naturally just thought that you guys have moved on from because you know why I didn't call back because I was always calling and calling and calling and you're not responding and picking. I was, I was, I got, there's a, see, I said, there's a limit to it. There's, I, I was, I did beg and cry like I see my whole life depended on it. And at some point I was like, man, I don't cry. I don't think I have it. Let me just walk away. Let me not cry again. Let me, this small dignity will remain for me as a man. That's why I did not call back from that time.

I will pick up my phone. I will look at my phone, I would look and say, ah, eh, mm,

ah.

So, my love just blinded all my, all her shortcomings or whatever. I was so much in love, it blinded me to a lot of things. If I was to do things back in reverse,

Baba,

no,

it won't happen again. It won't happen again.

I will not be stupid't happen again. It won't happen again.

I will not be stupid in love again.

So don't you think, because of what you just said now, and the message that you read earlier when she said no man is going to use me again or no man is going to... Don't you think that this thing that you're doing is something that maybe trauma, somebody has done it to her and she did it to you?

I wouldn't know, but let me tell you... Because it's in the message where she said,

no man is ever going to...

So that was before, that was 2017.

And now you're saying, I will never be stupid in love. What if you meet a good person or somebody that would be really nice to me? Don't you think you're going to hurt the next person?

That's a deep question. But see, I'm a hard worker. Those that know me, know me. I'm a hard worker. I'm a lover boy. I just loved.

That's what happened to me.

I just loved, that's what happened to me. I just loved. So are you saying you are going to love the next person?

Oh yeah.

I want to ask about your mental health. Because we have that conversation often, we talk about how people deal with situations. As a man, who over the years you faced this sort of situation, where even your friend feel look you,

like you say, when you go to a party, when they look at you, they look you, like you say, when you go party, they look you, they text you, say, are you okay? Sometimes it show. Because bro, how you go pick your wife for airport who you never see for four years,

she no hug you, you sleep for palo, on her birthday, all the plans that you planned, all the plans that you had, you made, everything you, she was telling you, either she's not, she doesn't like this one or she's not interested or she's tired. How would you feel? Of course you feel down. And your friend would know if you even know your friend, your friend would know say something wrong. That's why he was texting.

I said, bro, let me tell you something. I had gotten to a point where I started meeting girls and I would tell them, I would end up sitting down, we will be gissing and I'll be gissing in my story. If you're a woman, will you stay? Then you turn them to cancer. They would, in fact, I would say, I'm ready.

They would say, Robert, you're not ready. You're not ready. You're not ready.

No, you're not ready. Go and heal. So how do I heal? My question would be, how do I heal if you don't help me to heal? There has to be somebody on my side to help me get away from all this. So women, they run away from that kind of thing.

Have you ever been suicidal?

No.

But there were times that I would just sit down and lock myself. I would cry and cry and cry and cry. And I would look for who to call and I'll call my brother. And my brother will be like, are you alone? And I'll say yes.

He'll say, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Good, where Timi? I'll say, Timi no de town. Hey! You know, so yeah. You know, because Timi now say, okay, where Ken? Ken went out because my friend sells cars. walk down, come out from your house, walk out, come out from your house, I'll be like, okay, okay, okay. Let me dress up.

After two minutes, after one minute, they don't call you, where are you? I say, I'm outside, he say, okay, make sure you change your video, I'll change, you see. So it was a lot. So over time, I felt like I was healing,

I was getting there. always sending me messages on YouTube to watch how to, you know, get over heartbreak and all that. And I was always reading them, TD Jakes and all those things. I was, he would now say, don't worry, this will pass, this will pass. So I've gotten to a point where, let me tell you what happened. Maiwa traveled, went back after all this things, she went back in May, right? In June, Timmy had a gig in Sierra Leone. And just because he didn't want me to stay in Nigeria, he took me for that gig in Sierra Leone.

Shout out to Timmy D'Acolo. God bless you, sir. Thank you so much for your support. I wasn't on the bill. I wasn't on the bill. We got there.

I carry my suit normally. We got there, it was a two day event. The man was turning 50. The first day I told the planner, let me just introduce Timmy. And I was like, no, we have an MC that I said, no, just let me just, if Timmy wants to perform, let me just give me that two to five minutes, let me introduce him. And that two to five minutes was what captivated the man's wife. And she said, what? You're going to MC the next day, the next day.

Wow.

Life of the party. Baba, I MC the next day, as they come back, they knock me 2K. 2K dollars. I work for you, they play. I got life for you.

Wow.

Just like that. So, came back. I know sometimes I'll still be thinking, I would still, you know, there's no how I'll be be just with my friends that my worst conversation will not come in. Baba, I was in love. I, ah, ah, no.

You know, this, this question I'm going to ask is very deep. Why, we live in a society where men don't speak up. Why did you decide to come on this podcast to say these things that you're saying right now?

The reason I'm here is because I feel like men, men should speak.

Men don't talk. Having muscles is not being a man. Beards is not being a man.

I know how many people are going to be angry with me that I came here to talk.

But if I tell you all the things that I went through as... just because I loved, just because I loved,

I might have not been the perfect person, I might not have been the perfect man. There's no perfect marriage. And I felt that I could have worked this marriage. I felt that we could have worked it. Everything that I and Maiwa did,

or everything I did was possible Maiwa would say it's for us, it's for us, traveling now to America is for us, buying the house is for us I would get you the green card, I would fly a fire for you I'm going to get a lot of backlash from my family because they didn't want me to come here But I felt that I should come here I used to have sleepless nights.

As I speak to you now, I'm nocturnal. I don't sleep because my sleeping pattern changed. I was married for 10 years. 10 freaking years. I know people that yapped me.

People were saying, eh, your wife. I know how many people were telling me, your wife, the America. I know of families of husbands and wives that are abroad. The wife is in Nigeria, the husband is abroad and he never walked.

I know people that the wife is abroad and the husband is in Nigeria, the husband is abroad and he never worked. I know people that the wife is abroad and the husband is in Nigeria and he never worked and I always said my own will work. I always said my own will work. When this thing happened and I called my pastor's wife and I screenshotted the chats that I had with Maiwa, the first thing she told me was, ah, Robert, this one don't finish.

Bro, I'm an MC, that's all I do for a living. I don't know what else to do. I host events. I told you guys that I traveled to Asaba when my wife was around. When I go to Asaba, the planner took one look at me. I was hosting an event and the planner took one look at me and told me, I don't care what is going on with you. They paid you money to come to Asaba, please host this event. I saw a couple of weeks ago at an

event and I and I she's all how are you and I told her remember what you told me that day in Asaba and she said yeah and I said my wife left me that day. Wow. See they say real men don't cry but if I tell you the amount of cry this one where they cry no be anything but I tell you the amount of cry, this one where they cry no be anything, if I tell you the amount of cry I've cried, this is the best that I've felt in years. This is the best I've felt in years. I'm going to go home, living here with a lighter heart. People are calling me names, calling me words that, eh, he'sed. Yes, I'm pained. I'm pained.

He pained me. Man, Ola, he pained me. 10 years of my life, he pained me, Baba. If I had a kid out of wedlock, I would have been justified that, oh, Maiwa can do whatever she wants to do.

If I had a kid out of wedlock,

I would have been justified. Hmm.

What did I do but just look? I'm not perfect. Baba, I'm not perfect. I have my own shortcomings. Like I said, anybody, anybody, will feel say,

hey, I'm pinned. Making Kong wear the shoe I wear.

Hmm.

How can you stay with your wife? Four years you didn't see her. You call her. Four days, five days she will not pick and she will not call you back. And then you go to pick her up at the airport. After four days, after four years, she did not hug you.

See...

For whatever I've been through, it has made me a better person. And for whoever I'm going to meet after now, maybe I would just love the person for whoever that person is.

Thank you But please men should speak up

Because a lot of people were saying why didn't you do this? Why didn't you do that? I did it because I was in love I did not talk If that wedding picture did not come out, I would have posted whatever I posted and made it go viral. I would have not even talked. I didn't know. I just unfollowed. Let me be very sincere to you guys. When that Insta blog posted that thing, I didn't want to respond.

My phone was going off and they told me, you have to. Because there's a narrative now. You have to. And that's why I said what I said. Oh, everybody now, eh, did they have to say third marriage? How many marriages you don't do now?

Afonu Tokam? Do you understand my point? I wish her well in whatever she was, but... Baba, I'm pained. Anybody that say, eh, pained, yes, I'm pained. Now, we saw a lot of people in the comment section

and I would like for you to address what you think a lot of people misunderstand about your situation.

See,

all I did was want my wife to be happy.

That's why I allowed her to travel. All I did was want my wife to be happy. Okay.

That's why I allowed her to travel. That's why I allowed her to have RNG marriage.

Okay.

That's why I allowed her, allowed a man to stay in the house. No man would allow another man, or would allow his wife, have a flatmate as the opposite sex. No man would allow it. I allowed it. So for those people saying all those things in comment section, then I don't think maybe they never loved like that before. No man will allow it. I allowed all

that because I was in love. While still providing, dividing your income into two. Oh yes, they will say 100k is nothing but 100 people and 100K a month. If you give a person 100,000 or give a person 50,000 out of the 100,000 way they make, it means you don't dress up, go or come back, go work for that person for two weeks. Oh, yes, men are providers, but we are in a marriage.

If I don't get... We know a lot of marriages, we know a lot of people where the wife takes care of the family because the man doesn't get. But nobody knows. If I get, like I said, I only bought a car because I stopped sending money abroad. And after three months you were able to buy a car? Yes.

I didn't have a car. I didn't have a car. I was driving Timidakulu, one of his cars. I was driving it until he gave the car out. The person, he gave the car to his sister. The sister said, oh, Uncle Robert, Uncle Timidakulu gave me that car.

I said, I'll wait now. Look, I drive once more. You see, no, I want you to use it for my business. I thought about it. I was like, oh, I mean, your brother give you car. So I give her the car.

After I give her the car, I started saving. Because I had stopped sending money abroad. And I bought the car on Christmas day. I told myself I was going to give myself a... It might not be the biggest of cars, bro, but bro, I buy a Tukumbo car. And you know what it is to buy a Tukumbo car.

The next one, allow your type to go by.

Amen.

Amen.

I would like to ask you, what does moving forward, you know, what does moving forward, how does it look like to you. See, for those that are watching, don't judge me based off on this. Like I said, I'm a good man. Anybody that wants to take it to the bank, I'm a good man. So moving forward, I'm focusing on my gig. I host events. I host Beria. You know, these days Beria do receptions. So I host events. I got to a point I was doing children events.

So now I still do children events. I do weddings. So now, you know when you do something just because you want it to be a means to an end. I didn't used to do children events, but now I do children birthday. And I'm good at it. That's all I know how to do.

I studied radiography. University of Calabar. I studied radiography. University of Calabar, I studied radiography. Spent, because of ASU, entered in 1998. I no graduate until 2007. I'll be 2008. Almost 10 years because of ASU strike.

Radiography is like medicine. Yes. It has to do with ultrasound, CT scans, MRI and all that. Yeah. I went to University of Wuyu, teaching hospital. That's where I did my... And it was at that point I knew that I wasn't going to practice because I was working and when you have...

When you have... When you're on call, especially weekends, and I have a wedding out of town, I was supposed to have somebody to cover for me. So there was this youth copper that was always covering for me. So every weekend she would come and say, Robbie, don't you have a wedding today? I was paying her 20K in 2009.

Wow. I was paying her 20K so you can imagine. I was paying her, maybe they'll pay me 100K, I'll give her 20K to do, to be on call for me. So that's when I knew that I'm not going to, but of course they wanted me to, my wife wanted me to come go back to school, go back and get your transcripts. I know how many weddings, people wedding, where they do. They come from Canada, come from UK, they come from America. They tell me, ah, we don't have... I am the life of the party.

Baba, if you see where the host events. They'll come, they say, we don't have MCs like you. When are you coming abroad, please? And I told myself, OK, I'm coming. Everybody, all my clients, they'll be like, when are you coming? When are you coming? When are you coming? When are you coming? And I was like, I'm coming, I'm coming. So when I was denied visa, I paid me man, no lie. Because I know of my friends that are MCs in the US, I know how much they

charge. You get me? So...

You know, looking back, you had to leave Kalaba where you had money, you were making money, you were the biggest MC in Kalaba. And you moved to Lagos because of marriage to become a nobody.

Almost like a nobody.

Right. Looking back, would you take that kind of step again?

Moving from Calabar to Lagos.

Moving from anywhere to anywhere.

Um, ah, no, I wouldn't do it.

You think that was a big mistake?

It was a mistake that turned out well. Ah. But I won't do it again. So, final question. What would you say to someone going through something similar? Speak out.

Robbie.

Robbie.

You know, when it comes to this divorce. I know.

I'm a pioneer.

I'm the first to start. All of you learn from me. I cannot say when it comes to this divorce, I'm a pioneer, I'm a first starter. All of them learn from me. And when I was speaking out that time, even some of them followed me.

Oh, did you speak out?

I spoke out a bit. And many people were like, oh, he can't manage his home. Oh, he's useless, blah, blah, blah, blah. Thank you for speaking up. Thank you for speaking out. Men also go through a lot. You understand. And with everything

you talk, if Maiwa on ring light tomorrow, cry come put, everybody go stay around, go aside. Because of because she's a woman. Yeah, it's a woman's world. They just say it's a man's world. Bro, be strong. You're good at what you do. And I'm glad you came, you let something off your chest. Yes, there are three sides to a story. His side, her side and the truth.

But each side is that person's truth.

This is your truth.

And thank you for sharing it with the Honest Bunch.

Thank you.

Thank you for having me.

So guys, Thank you so much. I never week before for interview like this before. And as in at a point I just had to So guys, Thank you so much. I never week before for interview like this before. And as in at a point I just had to lie down and look at the ceiling. Thank you for watching. God bless you all.