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I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

Yes, I'm sorry.

Oh!

You're the one who's been holding it in for so long.

Yes.

The person I thought was my best friend turned out to be my husband's affair. Even my ex-husband is my husband's affair. And I think it's over. Now I know what you've been doing to me all this time. You've been lying to me all the time. You've been lying to me all this time. But he is the most cruel liar in my opinion.

The initial chronology was that he left me almost 7 months ago.

Oh, he already divorced?

He left me.

He left you?

Yes, so... Oh, you guys have already split up? We left him. So, he left because we had a misunderstanding. He left. But there was no explanation. So, I waited at home.

But you guys have always been in a fight?

We often have different perceptions, different views, different opinions.

Okay. We had different perceptions, different views, different opinions.

After that, we had a chance to meet. When he passed away, almost seven months ago, we had a chance to meet and there was a mediation. We were mediated by one of the Ustaz at that time. Then... At that time, the Ustaz suggested that we do the Istiqorah prayer.

Okay.

That's it.

Before that, we also had a mediation. We met and talked to each other. Then... I explained to him my disappointment, why he left me at home. There was no clue, no...

I was confused. Why was I left behind? What does it mean? Where should I go? What is the explanation? Then, I met the Ustaz again. At that time, the Ustaz suggested to do the Istiqoroh prayer.

And I tried to do it. I don't know why, on the fourth day of performing the Istiqorah prayer, there were actually many people around me who knew that he had been playing with women since then. But they never told me. But in the end they never told me but in the end they talked

oh so because of that you got the information how long have you been married?

12 years oh sorry, 7 years oh sorry, 7 years, with the girlfriend with the girlfriend 12 years oh so all this time you didn't know and there was no indication if you suspected that he had ever cheated on you?

Never. At all? You told me earlier. Yes, never. From the beginning of our relationship until the last day before the fight, I really never believed and never felt that he had ever played with a girl or played behind me.

Hmm. I felt like he was playing with a girl or something behind my back. When I was pregnant with my second child, the first day I got home from the hospital, I just got to my room, my friend called me. Mel, I got the info that your husband had an affair with your employee. Your employee?

Yes, my employee. Actually, he was his best friend, he joined my company. At that time, I just called him, I said, Dear, I ask you to clear your name

in the eyes of all our colleagues, because they know you have an affair with that, that, that, that D. because they know you're cheating on him.

What's his name?

D. You even suggested him to clean up?

Yes, because I'm really sure about him. Oh, you're sure he's not like that? Yes, I'm sure it's just a slander. Oh, good. Then I said, please clean up your name, because it's a violation of my self-esteem.

Yes, that's right. Because people think of me, people will feel sorry for me. For example, like... I don't want to be pitied by people just because my husband

is playing with other girls.

Okay, I understand. So you're like...

you don't want him to look bad. I don't want him to look bad. You're protecting his reputation. He left the room, outside the room, in the house, it was crowded, there were my colleagues too. He didn't know what coordination, all kinds of things. Finally he went back to his room, I looked for the person who started the gossip, I told them everything, and then it was normal again.

Who was the first person you got the information from? my colleague too. another colleague? I asked him, do you know Kak Tara and Sidi? he said, why did you ask that? you already know. I said, I'm just curious.

I pretended to know. How far did you know? I said, I'm sorry. We were all silent because we were afraid that your marriage would be ruined. We felt sorry for you.

We thought that if we talked first, the risk is on us. We were afraid.

Afraid of who?

They thought there was a risk.

Afraid of being rejected by your husband?

Maybe.

Maybe, okay. I tried to hide all of that fear. And then, during the harassment, my employees often saw them. Because, D was renting an apartment near my house.

This apartment?

No, it's different.

Oh, okay.

Where did they see you? We met at the apartment. My employee also worked at the apartment. Before working with me, he worked at the apartment. He said that was my husband.

Your husband must have said that was your colleague.

He didn't say that, because he rarely knows my colleague. I thought I should try to develop my relationship. Maybe this is the answer to the question about the stikoroh prayer. You developed it. Where did the answer to the prayer of Istiqoroh. Okay. You develop it. Where else do you look for information? Then I asked, who knows? They explained C, A, B, C, D, E, F. There are so many.

Your colleagues, it turns out, know a lot. Many know. My ex-colleagues also know a lot. I tried to contact them one by one. They also apologized. They said, some even resigned because of fear of hiding this secret it's not good at all

and then there are also those who say I'm sure one day it will be revealed everything will be revealed I want you to ask me first then I'll tell you everything finally you ask everything get information you know who this woman is.

Who is the woman? My ex-employee.

Huh?

My ex-employee who has been working with me for years. But he's resigned. I was confused, why this employee resigned but still stuck in my life, in my company he always mess with me, he always slander me he never mentioned the initials

but he always mentioned me he called me a mother of pain or something like that, then he slandered me this is the only person who doesn't stop slander, trying to ruin my name, trying to ruin my name in the employees, in all his social media.

So I'm confused, why is this person not stopping to me? It turns out he's an affair with his husband.

How long has he been working with you?

2 or 3 years

2 or 3 years?

but you know him well? I know him well because my husband's branding is he's a friend

oh the one who brought your husband? I saw in the video you met him too

at the end no, it's different

oh, different person?

hold on in the, you met a woman who wore a mask. Yes. Then you took off the mask. That's not cheating? That's cheating too.

Eh, how many?

It's a divine secret. No, seriously.

I mean, there are many?

Many. Total? How many in total? Actually, there are more. Like a dozen.

Okay. I'm blanking. I thought it was this one. After that, did you confront your husband?

No. You kept quiet? Yes, I did. Until finally, I got a lot of evidence, and I'm still like, I'm still in denial.

So you don't want to confront him? Yes, I feel that marriage is...

It's...

It's a heavy responsibility. I don't want to take a step back just because of what people say. And it's not proven yet. I'm afraid that I'll regret it later. I'm determined to fight as hard as I could until the situation proved that I was going to back down. But as long as people were talking, I didn't want to back down just because of what people were saying.

So you let yourself be in that condition. Yes. And how long did that last?

Until I wanted to prove it with my own eyes.

Okay. How long after that moment, did you finally decide, I have to prove it?

After the Istiqorah prayer, Not long? Not long. At that time, I had the chance to pretend to go out of town to manage the mail store. Yes. I was allowed to go to run a mail store. I got permission to go to Jogja.

I told them, I want to go to Jogja, please take care of the kids. There was a CCTV at home, so I could see when he came home, when he left. CCTV, ya. Jadi aku bisa lihat dia kapan aja datang ke rumah, kapan dia pergi terus aku ikutin dia kemana pergi. Diam-diam? Diam-diam. Terus? Aku ikutin terus aku selalu kehilangan jejak di jalan kayak, tapi dia selalu arah

ke lenteng agung

Jadi gimana tuh kalau dia kehilangan jejak gitu terus kamu bisa ketemu? Aku ulangin lagi besoknya. He always went to Lenteng Agung. So what happened?

If he lost his track, you could find him? I repeated it again the next day.

Oh, many times.

Many times.

Finally, you knew where he went.

Yes.

What day did you follow him? The sixth day.

You knew, wow. Here.

Where was it? In the apartment. Apartment.

In the apartment... The apartment.

In the apartment? Yes.

Oh, so you went there that day or did you... I waited. I was like, I'll just wait. The important thing is, I know he comes here often.

So you didn't go that day? The next day. The next day? Oh, he went there the next day.

He went there for six days straight. Yes.

I think she's in the apartment with my colleague. Your colleague?

Yes.

You mean, she's on medication?

You mean, she's doing the right thing? So, as long as I know her, she always says that she has a mental illness. Okay. And every time she makes a mistake, When I first met him, he always said that he had a mental illness. And every time he made a mistake, I tried to understand him. I tried to beat him because I thought he had a mental illness.

We tried to go to the psychologist many times, but he never agreed. Until he agreed with one psychologist. And it turned out that he was cheating on me with that psychologist

1, 2, 3, so...

wait, wait, wait why do you think that psychologist lives in that apartment? because I've been there too I was also treating that psychologist so that psychologist is my husband and I

and it's there, in that apartment okay how do you know that he was's there? In that apartment? Yes. Okay. How do you know about the school?

Same as De. So many people saw it. Oh, many people saw it, many people know, many people told you. And some people told me. How far did you know about the school? I never...

You don't want to know? No, I don't want to know. The point is, I already knew... the person I thought was my best friend... turned out to be my husband's affair. Even my husband's affair with my ex-husband.

And I think it's over. Okay. So, you planned it. You prepared it in this video, right prepared, you coordinated with the apartment. Yes, I told them I am Sah the proof that I was a good wife. I told him that my husband rarely came home.

I wanted to know what the truth was.

So, they were okay? Okay. Did it take long for them to deny it?

It took a long time. At first, they didn't want me to go up to the roof, because they were afraid that it would disturb the neighbors. At the end, I was sure that I wouldn't be okay there. Oh, the one in this video. I made sure there would be no trouble.

Even though I was screaming there.

You must have been nervous. What did you hoping for? I was hoping, God willing, this is the answer to everything. Because I was always arguing with him, and I had been waiting for him for months at home. I wanted this to have an ending for my waiting. Okay, I understand. And hopefully this is the answer. From my love for him, I hope this is the answer.

I hope this is the answer.

I hope this is the answer.

I hope this to have an ending from my waiting.

Okay, I understand.

From my love and passion, I want this to be answered. The point is, if I'm right, I hope it's right. I hope it's right. Eh, not I hope it's right.

Yes, so that it becomes an answer.

So that I'm not curious anymore. That's right. And this is ultimately an answer, right? Like you said, that all this time you've been with the wrong person all this time. So I don't regret it. I was curious about the knock. He didn't suspect anyone.

He was close to the security. He often gave money, like that. So before going up, I was asked, this is my husband's photo, oh, this is the police, he said. Oh, it turns out not. He admitted it, he...

Oh, okay. Then? Then, no, my husband is not a police. He lives here with his wife. Which one is his wife? Because I knew before that he had a girlfriend. And I showed him his Instagram.

He said, no, no, not that one. I said, who else? Which one did you show him? His ex. I knew they were still dating. Oh, they're different? Who else? Which one did you show? There was this ex-boyfriend of his. I knew they were still dating.

Oh, they were different?

Yes, they were.

Okay.

And then, he took you there?

Yes.

And he showed me this picture.

Oh, the one in the video?

Yes.

And I didn't know who he was. So I thought, Oh,

whatever. Oh, you didn't know who she was, so I thought, oh well.

Oh, you didn't know? The girl you're filming, you've never met her? No, I've never met her.

Okay.

But the girl was told by her employer that there was a girl who often stayed here. So I asked, where did she stay? In my room. Huh? In my room. In my room?

Where?

I have a room with my husband.

You have a room? I mean in your house?

Yes.

Your house?

Yes.

And?

Our house.

Your house? And?

He often brings this girl to that room.

To the room?

To the room.

You have to have CCTV?

I didn't have CCTV at home. So, we had a fight. He drove my family out of the house. I ended up looking for a house. Your family? Yes.

Because my parents are in Medan. So, they rarely go to Jakarta. Sometimes they go to Jakarta after a year. So if they stay in Jakarta for a long time, sometimes for two months, sometimes for three months. Last time, he said that he was overwhelmed

that his family was gathering at home. Finally, because I also felt uncomfortable, even though, well, I appreciate him. Even though before getting married, I though I respected him. Even though before we got married, I tried to remind him again, before we got married, we talked about this.

I'm the backbone of the family. So my dream is to make my parents happy. Do you agree? He said yes at that time. Then if my parents live in my house, I make sure they won't leave.

But once they go to Jakarta, they will definitely be for months. Then the children will gather, the family. Are you burdened? He said, no burden. Then I asked him too, that if you want, what if we get married?

I don't want anything, I just want to live happily. He answered like that. In my opinion, with him having a mental illness, and he was thrown out of the family, it's not hard to live with him. Not much wanting, not much what not,

I thought, I will love him with all my heart.

How did you meet him?

So, back then, we... My boyfriend is a skateboarder. So, my boyfriend told me that your boyfriend often brings a girl to the skate park. So, I said, I feel sorry for you. So, you have a boyfriend.

And your husband... He often saw my boyfriend taking his girlfriend to the party.

He told you that you were often cheated on. Yes.

That's funny.

And? And my ex-boyfriend was proven. He was proven right so I broke up and I was like, I'm with him

oh, because he came at the right time and you thought because he told the truth, he was right good relationship no mental illness? no so he easily got jealous You have a good relationship? Yes, we have a good relationship. No, there are many things going on? No, there are no many things. No mental illness?

A lot.

So, he easily gets angry.

Then, if there is a little problem, he easily gets angry, gets angry. Then, if there is a little problem, he easily gets stressed. He gets stressed, confused. Oh, you can understand that. But, you have been loving him from the beginning? I was so stressed and confused. Oh, I see.

But you loved him from the beginning.

Yes, I did.

You told me on the phone that you raised him from zero. It's not a good tell the story, right? So, actually, I graduated from SMP from Padang Sedimpon to Jakarta. Okay. After moving to Jakarta, I started a business, looking for my own money for my own income, so as not to support my family. How old were you?

15 years old. You were independent.

Yes.

So? I think there were a lot of markets in Padang Sidimpuan. I was in Jakarta, so I took advantage of the opportunity. I went to the grocery stores, became a reseller in the grocery stores. So I used to sell through BBM. All my customers were from Padang, Sidimpuan.

What's BBM?

Blackberry.

Oh, Blackberry.

You sold, you were a self-employed class worker. And then?

And then, I graduated from high school. At that time, because I felt that this mail store, my business was quite successful and could cover my life even sometimes my family members because my brothers were also in the same situation so I decided

not to go to college, I wanted to focus on the mail store I wanted to develop the mail store. It was called Mail Shop. And then you met... I met my ex-husband. He was also selling shoes, but men's shoes.

Okay. We talked and connected. I told him I had a concept to make an offline store. A boot. I asked my family and my family, my father,

but it turned out that I didn't have enough money. At that time, my husband introduced me to my family and his mother was happy with me.

And she kept coming?

Yes, and she said, she wanted to support me. At that time, I was borrowed 10 million rupiahs.

Oh, his Oma helped you.

Yes, I was borrowed 10 million rupiahs. But after a few months, I immediately returned it. I was in debt with Oma. So I often... I often rep my parents' debts So, your family is good to you, right?

Because my grandmother is good, I believe she is good

That's what makes you sure? That's what makes me sure Until you finally got married?

Until I finally got married But in that marriage, did you build that business together or alone? Because I felt that he was my partner, so I was like, let's just be together.

What do you mean by together? Is it a money game or something?

Oh, no. So he accompanied me to the grocery store, and then accompanied me to the boutique. But when his mental was down, he ran away, disappeared.

Did he help you in business? In business, down, he ran away. Did he help you in business?

In business, yes. He accompanied me to the grocery store. Sometimes, we had discussions. Sometimes, well, how do you say it? We were dating.

You needed a girlfriend.

Yes. And then... Until finally, we broke up. It was a fight. We broke up. We broke up. I tried to... We broke up when we were together.

His family called. They found out we were having an argument. We were on speakerphone. We were together. His family said, you broke up with Amel,

then what about the share of the property? What about the business? So, his family was afraid, like a fear.

Still dating? Still dating. Then I was also confused, why can the family have to get involved in our business? Whereas I always limit my family to get involved in business or anything like that.

But is it real that he invests money or he works?

The real thing is his grandmother lent me money. Yes, but you have returned it. That's a debt of gratitude I'm still grateful to him I still feel grateful But if we talk like before, did you invest money?

No, I didn't Because you're still dating So, what did you think? I immediately thought I'm not comfortable His family will think

if I took advantage of all this for me, I would just split the property. When you got married? When we were dating. Not splitting the property, but we split it. Coincidentally, there were two offline stores, one in ITC Depok and one in Depok Town Square. Split it into two stores, one for you and Depok Town Square for two shops

one for you and one for me

but who is the model? my model your model?

the one who works?

yes, sometimes he helps

but your model so you give so this is your part

yes Oh, so you gave it to him. So this is your share. Yes. I want to date you.

And after that, it went well.

Yes, it went well. Finally, I gave him one shop, I gave one shop, and we split the stock. I made sure that there would be no what is it?

Troubles.

Troubles behind. Because it's already involved with the family. Previously, I was already involved with my family. Before that, I was also disappointed because I said, you just give me 20 million, I can easily live anywhere. What do you mean by 20 million? At that time, I was disappointed because I was like,

just continue the mail store, you give me 20 million so I can continue my life, I think it's easy. Oh, you mean you can take this mail store and give it to me. I'll return it to you. I'll give you 20 million. I only asked for 20 million so he can continue everything. You take it again.

Yes, you take it. I'm easy.

How much was the capital?

Around 30 million. 30 million. Oh, you give me 20 million. Okay. But in the end? In the end, he said, this is not my right. Don't be like that. He's good.

And then, finally, it went well.

In the end, I run my shop, he runs his shop. A few months later, the shop closed. Before it closed, I still supported the goods, supported the goods, supported the goods, until finally he bonded to me. His shop was not doing well. He borrowed stuff from me, and his shop had a debt to my shop.

What kind of relationship is this? I'm a bit confused. Sorry, I'm not used to this. What made you believe in marrying him? I believe he's a good person. But because he has a mental illness, I also feel that his grandmother is really good to me. His grandmother, his parents are not mentioned.

Do you have a gr bitterness with your parents? It's okay, you don't have to tell me. If you don't want to tell me, it's okay. Okay, so you feel that he's a good person, so you decide to marry him. He proposed to you.

Okay. Did you separate the assets?

When we got married, we put it all together. Did you separate the property?

When we got married, we got everything. There was no print-out?

No. Even after he closed his shop, he started working as a contractor. He told me that he didn't get paid he worked as a contractor and he didn't get paid and his life was miserable and because we felt like...

like a cat, right? so I told him to come back

especially since he's married

no, we're still dating so I told him to come back to the mail store. We can help each other. You can accompany me. And then, the debt from your shop

is settled. You don't have to discuss it anymore.

Okay. You're getting married?

Yes, we're getting married. So, so you're in a relationship and you're getting married? Yes, I'm in a relationship and I'm getting married.

So, if you evaluate your marriage, you have a lot of problems. Yes.

The problem always comes because... Because I'm sure we have different characters, we have different visions and missions. What are your visions? Since I was a child, my dream was to grow up in Jakarta. I want to be successful in Jakarta. But he wants to live happily.

You should be happy if you want to be successful.

How do you mean by happy?

He doesn't have too many ambitions he just wants to live happily that's for you

not suitable

I'm just suitable but sometimes the conflict comes there is always a conflict

example don't tell this story if you don't want

example like For example, you don't have to tell me this, if you don't want to. For example, after getting married, he always said that he needed self-worth, dignity, dignity as a husband. I always said, what should I do so that you feel that your self-worth can be fulfilled? He requested, finally I want to have my own business. Okay, I opened his business. You opened it? Yes, I helped him to open it.

No one opened it themselves?

Yes, no one. Finally, I opened his business. Men's shoes. More shoes? Yes, shoes again, then it's been five years until now, it's always minus minus minus never profit, yes, once, but only a few millions, how many and it doesn't close, my husband, my parents always tell me, your husband has a mental illness.

So make sure in making a decision or whatever, you have to include your husband. Even though you know which one is the best. But at least he can, with such a small halal, he feels treated. I do it, I do everything my parents want. My parents said, you have a mother-in-law and a father-in-law, your father doesn't want it, how do you treat your father and mother?

You are different from your mother and father-in-law, they are your parents too. So how do I treat my parents-in-law? I make sure it's exactly the same as I treat my mother-in-law. Even more, bro. For example, yesterday, before getting married, I asked,

who will live in our house later? He said, no, my family won't. I make sure they won't follow us. Okay, I'm sure my family won't follow us either. But my parents will come often, will come, and when my parents come,

their family will also come to him because he rarely goes to Jakarta. Then he said, yes, it's okay. But it turns out that after getting married, just finished getting married, just after we got married, his parents lived with me.

I thought that because I was taking care of my parents' health, it was okay. His parents lived with me. I did what my parents did. Because in religion,

a mother-in-law is the same as a parent. So, it's not because I was afraid of being in a relationship with someone, but I know it's my duty. And then, my father lived with us for a long time, and then my mother-in-law took over, and we lived together for a long time.

I never spoke rudely like, Oh, your family, when are you going to get married? Never. I always take, what is it, the good language, although sometimes my mother-in-law is a bit,

a lot, which is not suitable with my principles. I even look for solutions like, let's buy a house for my mom so she can be comfortable in her house. I bought my mother-in-law a house, I bought her a house so she can be comfortable,

even though everyone knows that the one who bought it was his son. Because I always branded my husband as a person who has never been confident since he was a child. He always felt neglected by his family. My motivation, my dream is how to make him be respected by his family family and in the environment you want to be king I want to cure him, cure all his trauma that's my dream

that's why when I transfer to my family, to my grandmother, to my family I always say this is a gift from A'a you want to bring his name. Of course. So that he has self-esteem. So that his family knows that he is worthy of being considered. I also sometimes get confused. Why is there suddenly a problem? Then, in the end, because he has a mental illness and I believe that,

he's the one who's always fighting, angry. Because I believe he has a mental illness, I was the one who was angry and mad. Because I believed he had a mental illness, I was like, well, it's a mental illness too. So, if I argue, there's no ending, no use. In the end, I always try to calm down.

But is it true that there is a disease or not?

Isn't it clear? Finally, if you ask me now, I don't believe it. If it was before, I was really sure.

Mental illness must be diagnosed, right? Yes.

At least with a psychologist. You have a psychologist, right?

Have you ever had a diagnosis? No, never.

Gray?

Gray. Because every time we go to the psychologist, he has a different session and I have a different session the psychologist only said

you don't need to come here what you need is your husband so that your husband can change is this a psychologist who was cheated on? no so my head is going somewhere can change Is this a psychologist who was cheated? No, not a psychologist

So my head is going somewhere

If a psychologist who was cheated he is only suitable for that the psychologist the repeat is there and because I feel yes, finally I have found the right one, I am optimistic he can

recover in that psychologist

recover? yes, okay I'm not the one who's suitable, I'm optimistic that he can recover from that. Recover?

Yes, okay.

So, the point is, you found out that you guys are not suitable. Until you guys decided to break up first, as you told us at the beginning.

He left me, Bang. He left me, not like that. He was angry and mad, he left me. Does it make sense for him to leave you? No, it doesn't make sense. What are the reasons?

No, it doesn't make sense. I mean, it doesn't make sense. Whatever the problem is, he shouldn't leave it and don't let it go.

Yeah, that's from your POV, right?

But maybe there's something you don't know, that you've experienced, maybe. No, there's nothing.

Nothing, huh?

Well, according to him, you and him actually, he already assumed that you guys were separated yes, so there was also a mother-in-law who gave clarification she said we have been separated for a year yes, yes, like that that's why I also informed that try to check on the month of June.

My mother-in-law is also posting videos. We are video calling her. My husband and I are celebrating Eid in Padang, Sidimpuan. We are video calling her. We are apologizing to her. What month is it on Eid?

On Eid, it's April. Yes, the month of April. Meanwhile, this was still in the month of...

So, in April we went back to our hometown together. We went back from Sdimpuan to Jakarta together. We still lived together. So, after you guys fought, you guys didn't talk anymore? From this apartment? No. After you hugged him, you didn't talk to each other anymore?

No.

So you just tried to guess?

He tried to contact my brother, my biological brother. He said he wanted to meet me, he wanted to apologize to my parents too.

That's good.

But when he was informed to my mother, my, she really loves him. She's the daughter-in-law of her love. Then my mom said, if it's like this, why do you meet him? It's useless.

I'm sure my mom will forgive him, but she won't forget him. So there's no peace anymore? No. No chance to reconcile? No. Okay. there is no peace anymore, there is no possibility of reference, there is no no, okay, well, your business with the woman you found in the apartment with her is over too

or did you report her to the police?

finally at that time I took her to the police, right? police station that's what was in the video, you took her to the police station at first you take him to the police station? At first, no. At first, he was just left in the apartment. After you were raped?

Yes. What did you say to your husband?

Oh, like this. I shouted.

You shouted?

I shouted. And because I had promised security I wouldn't do anything, I controlled myself and went downstairs Oh, so you were holding back your emotions at that time Did you ask him? How could you cheat on me with my husband?

Did you ask him when you met?

Oh yes, I asked him

What did he say?

Why do you want to cheat on me with my husband? He said he already broke up with you But you didn't... He showed me show any proof that I broke up with him.

Oh, but he already knew that your husband was married.

He knew, right? He knew. He knew, Bang. He definitely knew. Because my son often played at his house. And he also...

He definitely saw the house that was placed by her husband house, house, house, and on social media he must know. And your conversation with your husband there is no conversation. Oh there is conversation, I said even though two months ago we met, you said

if you break up with me you won't be able to marry anyone else. What do you mean? We met once, he said if I break up with you, I won't be able to marry anyone else. And I'm really sure we broke up because of the difference in our personalities and characters. Not because of cheating?

Not because of cheating. I don't believe that he cheated. But was it cheating or was he already married? I don't know. Oh, you don't know. But he admitted that he cheated in the end. Oh, there was never a question like that, but it was already written there.

Oh, I told him, you're a liar, I said. Don't think I don't know, now I already know what you've been doing to me all this time.

You've been lying to me all the time. I said. What did he say? Then, you and this guy. How can you be so sure that you and D? D is often... Wait, D has two, because this one, the one you're in this apartment, his name is also...

Oh yes, different, different.

You know a lot, actually.

D, the employee.

D, the one before, right?

How can you be so sure? He's mean to me. Then why did you cheat on him? What did he say? He said, shut up.

He regretted it.

He said, you know where he got that from. You don't need to know. I understand everything. And you also cheated on me with our psychologist. What did you do? He said, what do you mean? He said, what is the proof?

I said, you... I spilled the beans too. I was silent, he was silent. Not only that, you came here, here, here, here, I explained. You said all this time, you only have mental illness. You always say you have mental illness.

You always say, I... Which one do you prefer? I'm naughty here, here, here, this part, this part, naughty other men,

or... naughty because of a woman? Do you understand?

I don't get it.

You don't get it, right? So, if I'm mad at him, like, why do you spend so much money for things like that? Like that, right?

What's that?

It's his other hobbies. Then, when can you stop doing this and that? He has other hobbies that I think are dangerous. She said, which one do you prefer? Me like this or me playing with girls?

So, I just prayed for a moment, I hope you stop. So, all this time I was just sure that he was wrong only other things not women. It turns out? Women too.

You talk like this like people have what is it already in peace and no longer sad? And no. It's okay. Now I'm not focused on sadness anymore. and you're not sad anymore? and you're not sad anymore?

now I'm not focusing on being sad anymore if I'm sad maybe it's my work it all has a shift I have to live at home because I'm always

overthinking and crying at home I always cry every month

so what makes you cry? I cried at home for months.

What made you cry? What triggered you to be sad?

I wanted my marriage to be successful. But if it's like this? If it's like this, it's over. I'm not curious anymore.

Not curious anymore. Do you still have regrets? Trauma that's had in your heart.

I'm sure I have trauma. That's why I'm optimistic right now. Do you have any questions for him? Oh, there are many people who lied to me about my business and my life. But I think he's the most cruel liar in my opinion. Actually, I had an intention to finish Ranah Pribadi, but it turned out that the attack did not stop.

So it's like I'm a perpetrator and they are victims. They made clarifications, tried clarifications, and the clarifications were all lies. I was like, how could they blunder?

So they said, we've been separated for a year, even though we were still together on Eid, after coming back from, what was it, we came back from... What was it? After we came back from the village,

we were still together. And then, they said that I was already divorced. Even though there was evidence. I talked to my ex-husband, and he said that I was already divorced.

That's it. And then, they said that I was the one who was the most evil in their lives. So I was like, what should I do? I was the one who was the most evil in their lives. I was the one who was the most evil in their lives.

I was the one who was the worst person in their lives. So I was like, what do I do? Because I knew that if there was a debate or a conflict, I would be lazy. I would be like, okay, he doesn't have to respond. But the more I let it go,

it turned out that I was blind. As if I was the perpetrator. I had to take action. I couldn't. Because all this time, if there was a problem, I would say, just be patient.

I understand. That's why you decided to tell this in public. Even though at first you wanted to finish it in private. Yes. I told this story in public, even though I wanted to finish it in private.

Then, what about the division of the Gini's assets that you meant when you called me? Gini's assets have been completed, Sir.

Oh, it's done?

Oh, he said he still wants to demand it. No?

Not yet.

But he got half of it.

Because at that time, I was sure that our separation was not a problem. I was sure that he was a good person. Just because he had mental illness and other bad habits, it was not a problem for me. That's why I gave some of it to him.

But if he turns out to be a womanizer, I won't be sincere.

Oh, so he already got his share. That's a lot, right? But you're sincere? No? Honestly?

I was sincere at that time.

Now...

At that time, he said, I left this house wearing a pair of sandals and just bringing one suitcase was enough. At that time I said, don't be like that. You also have to continue your life, you have a business, all kinds of things, don't be like that. Then he said, no, I can do it myself. But a week later he came to me, I also need a place to live, facilities, etc.

Oh, okay, I've offered it. I thought you really refused it from the bottom of your heart. Then, finally, he said he needed a house for his mother. He needed a house for himself, he needed a vehicle facility, a house and all of it. He wanted a business that he ran entirely his own business.

I asked him what else he wanted. He said, okay, we'll take care of it. Actually, I'm already focused on the future. I want to treat... The wound? Yes, so that there won't be any more trauma.

Because I know that in the future, they will have some shortcomings, like love and happiness. So I want to focus on that, even though I'm in business or busy, I want to balance, not balance, but more to not lose the moment of loving them. I'm trying to get there, then I'm focusing on my family, my parents, back to my parents. How old are your children? 4 years old and 6 years old. 6 years old. Do they know the condition of their parents now? My first child once asked, why hasn't dad ever

come home? I don't want to leave mom's room until dad comes to Papa datang untuk temanin mama. Terus aku bilang, Papa itu kan laki-laki. Jadi Papa itu harus bekerja untuk menafkahin kita. Supaya nanti kamu bisa sekolah, adik bisa sekolah, kita bisa beli makanan, supaya kita bisa punya tempat tinggal. Kan kita harus ada biaya, bi we can have a place to live. We have to have money, so we can let him earn that money.

If he grows up, what will you tell him? If he grows up, I hope he can take care of himself. If there's a man who's mean to her, she's brave and has the mental to take action or protect herself.

Both women? Yes. Both women.

Oh my God.

Did you tell your husband about it? Since the last time you met him, or you haven't met him until now?

I just want to say everything he did to me will pass. But I don't want him to do the same thing to her child. As long as she left me, she knows my weakness is that I can't sleep before my husband comes home. Whether it's 3 or 6 in the morning, I can't sleep before he comes home.

My child cried many times because he was on the phone. He said, I'll be there in the evening. My son waited until the evening, until the next day, and cried. He said, Dad didn't come. I was heartbroken. I hope that's not done. So that it becomes...

He didn't do anything to me, and that already past, but don't do it to the child. Yes, I mean, your business, let it be finished, but don't continue to the child. But did you report him to the police? Because yesterday I was robbed in the apartment, the security suggested we move from there so that it's not complicated there. I immediately thought we should go to the police office

and you made a report?

I made a report

what was the purpose?

he never knew, if I already knew all his actions here it proves that I already know everything okay, but you want to put him in jail if it's a police report, the end is in jail. He was arrested yesterday.

Okay.

In jail or not, until now I still like to go back and forth.

Doubtful.

Still doubtful. But, in my opinion, logically,, he should learn from here. He's been lying to me, you know. Big lies. Not only from the heart, but also from our family, and also financially.

I was lied to a lot by him. But the digital footprint is not good, right? If your child sees it, he will definitely think of you, right? Yes, but I was also rejected that I hoped later they would think, oh, when my mother was her. She can get up and know how to take care of herself. I don't want my children to be like me, the weak one.

In dealing with their partner, I don't want them to be silent, depressed, feeling depressed, becoming victims. I don't want them to be victims.

I want them to have a mental.

So you've been correcting yourself a lot with all this, right? What do you feel?

I feel that all this time, I've been just being lazy. Because my focus is on my family and my house. The rest is not... I don't want to have negative thinking. So, were you happy while you were married?

When we were in Umroh in Madinah, I answered... He once asked me this question. I said, I'm not happy. I hope you can change.

What was his response?

He was angry again.

He was angry.

My poor son. Two human children met and ended up in this condition. With good intentions, but their journey didn't end well. What do you want to say to the children? If they watch this video, it's a long video. I don't know how old they are, but they're watching it.

What mark do you want they left behind? Talia, Sapa I love you. Dahlia, Safa, don't ever focus on your mom and dad's problems. Mom loves you, you love her, and dad loves you, I love you, I love you. My love and my father's love,

is all for you. Let my problems become your problems, and my problems become your problems. I hope that because of my shortcomings, I can take care of yourselves more, because we won't be together forever. You have to be able to take care of yourselves.

Yes. Because they are also women, Because they are also women, one day they will get married.