The Porsche Made His Cheating Worse

What made you to stay there?

He was financially abusing me. I'm sorry about what happened to you.I regret getting married to him, but I don't regret.

Yeah, sometimes I do come to site.Okay.

It's full time.Yeah, 100 % full time.I think it was 2013.I still do the same but now it's better.The installation, so...

But business owner and HLA, because I know my sister is doing the same thing.Too much.Yeah.

It's just that I don't have a salon, but yeah.

Yeah.

I work from home.

And it's a serious business, because together...

Use my hands.Unless if I have like the other thing, then that's when it gets uncomfortable.I think in early five years.

Isn't that bargaining?

It's kelihe but this one they call it otake.

So how much is that one?

This one now on my price list is 1 .8.

We'll get to that at the end of this conversation because I want people to...I'm very much impressed.

I'm telling you.

This business is big.

And I am 29 years of age, but my age is 137, but it's fine.So, it's hard.Yes, it's hard.It's hard for me.It's hard for me to go to school.

Yes, yes.What do you do when you can't go to school?

When I go to school, I don't go to the streets.So, I don't go anywhere.I'm busy with my work or drawing.

Art has been part of your life.

Yeah, it's been part of my life, yeah.

Wow, wow.I'm sure you went to school.

Yeah, I went to school.

Wow, wow.I mean, it's interesting that you went to Amaskrala.You said it's a village.Amaskrala is a village.

No, it's not a village.It's a village.

It's not Amaskrala.It's not Morocco, it's not Temba, it's not Mandela.It's not a village.Did you have ambitions?Did you have something like that in mind?

I don't know what to say.I don't have a business mind.

What kind of a person were you?

and I can make people laugh.

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for the first time there was this other lady Okay, it's fine.

Yeah.

Yeah.So, yeah.

Yeah.Yeah.

Then business.Oh, it's easy for you to know how to do makeup.

Cause that's what I was going to ask.I think because of already easy for you.You didn't go to school for Manala.

I didn't go to school for.For real?Yeah.

And look how good you are with this.And I know Manala is complicated.I always complain with my lady or Manala.Because they take long.

Yeah, they take long.

So you're going to be sort of open your mind.

It's a hotel guest house in Munina Park.So my relationship with my husband is independent.

So you experienced teenage pregnancy in school?

Yes, I was 19 years old.

You were doing grade...I was doing grade 12.Grade 12?Yeah.It was early grade 12?

Yeah, I was in grade 12.

Was it not difficult for you?Because you know that they will be on your case, or when you go to school, you know, you're doing grade 12, you can't do anything.

Yes, it was difficult for me.But now I understand.When I started, I don't feel like I'm pregnant.I don't go to school.No.I don't go to school.

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I don't go to school.I don't go to school.I don't go to school.I don't go to school.Why, you know, but just to talk about why.you're here.

And I know that you've written a book about it, but let's go back a little bit, just to lay it on the table.How did you meet your baby?

I have a cousin sister from my, from my mother's side.So they were two.Then we went to a restaurant.So from there.Yeah.

And the relationship.

Yeah.

How was your love?I know that you're Yeah, so I hope this doesn't make him uncomfortable.No.Yeah, yeah.

I had to lie again.So, I think next week, I think nearly June 16.Then, I told my boyfriend, Maranesi, you can go, it's fine.Then, I told my boyfriend, Maranesi, you can go, it's fine.Then, I told my boyfriend, Maranesi, you can go, it's fine.Then, I told my boyfriend, Maranesi, you can go, it's fine.

a DJ by that time, but he was a reggae.So he said, I want you.

Did you disclose at some point what happened at Gisatsana School?

So I think I was writing...

Like we are still young.That's interesting.And it's shocking that he sort of never gave up.He just continued.I would never.So there was a spark of fire there.

There was no fight.After school, you have to go back to school.

So Afetza Metrigi, then, was there plans of, hey, maybe going to university and study this?Because you know, how much Afetza, you know, grade 12.

Yeah.

There's a bit of, or there are possibilities of this separation, whereby you go to school and go to university.of Venda or you go to Deben or Cape Town.But did you have any plans like that?

Like I said, I didn't have any plans, but I qualified for Coastal Yale in the first year.And I applied for my mother, not for me, because I'm into beauty, so yeah.I didn't want to spend more money.I said, let me just do this short course.I didn't want to spend more money.Then after two or three months, I decided to do this course.

Okay.Yeah.You know, you're doing this course and it's part of your dreams.I'm sure you have a lot of dreams.or over social work, you know about that.But then if I'll qualify, you have to come up with a plan.

But within that plan and those dreams that you have, did you have dreams of seeing yourself as a married woman one day?

That's why I'm still young.I'm still young.I'm still young.

I'm still young.I'm still young.I'm still young.Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah.

The cultural thing.Yeah.You know, sometimes we don't plan them.

And as a woman, you get to be led by a man.Was there a plan that he sort of presented to you to say, you know what, I think we can go into this direction, the direction of...You know, was that plan really presented to you?

Yeah.You are my forever, and then we will be together again.Before anything else, I want to tell you something.

Sure.

I want to tell you something.I don't know.I don't know.I don't know.I don't know.I don't know.

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I don't know.I don't know.I don't know What made you worry?The trust was there.because it's fine, we can move in together.

And this was after metric?

Yeah, it was immediately after metric.

That was too fast.

Immediately after metric.

That was too fast.You're very fast.Were you madly in love like that?

Yeah, I can't lie.

Like you just wanted to go.How about Daddy, I will order something.I will try.

That was your first meal.Yeah.

Were you prepared for baby number two?

No.I didn't expect baby number two.

But at least you pushed.

Yeah.

You really trusted him, right?

Yeah, too much.Too much.To a point, I thought maybe he'd give up sometimes.

Speaking about giving up, So you had to pause that as well.So you had to forget your, your dream, yourself, because you're focused on this person now.buy a weave for yourself.You didn't have to do nails by yourself.You didn't have to do shopping.

The problem is that when coming to hair, nails, and all those things, shopping, going to center and Menle mall.

Yeah, shopping.Yes.You knew that that was taken care of.So the baby number two came in.And you are now a mother of two.

That's when you saw.Because it took time.for it to settle down.

And how long?How many years did it take for it to settle down?

At least not more than a year.

I mean, like that time ago, you know, I'm sure 150 ,000.

Not even.

For this kind of a flower.I mean, like.

Not even.

You know, so it can be very difficult for a man.If and also better.At one time, it can be a sign of disrespect to the family.So.If we charge 60 ,000 or 100 ,000, at least 20%, then how worth it?Yeah, how worth it?

Yeah.

Yeah.Yeah.

Besides lifestyle, I don't know how much is earning and then I don't know how to push him to fulfill it.

Did you push him to fulfill it?Because I know women sometimes, sometimes when a guy relaxes, they can push you.

Yes, and I don't know how to do it.I don't know how to do it.I don't know how to do it.I don't have that opportunity.to swim.I feel it.

Then I'm sure you had like a cultural wedding at some point.Yeah, very nice one.How was it?

It was nice.It's a holy, holy, holy day.And then I enjoyed it, especially going high.

So the wedding night you went high?I'm sure you enjoyed it.

It was a beautiful day.Too much.Though it's very expensive, but it's really nice.You know, but I got into a big event.That's why I go high.It was a small event, but I enjoyed it.

Then I got to the groom's place.It was too much, so I got overwhelmed.That's the thing.

But you had to go out and face them.Wasn't that a concern to you?

And how does it work?

I thought sequence, I don't know, but I thought sequence is before the letter, like let's say, before the letter,you need to propose to him.

I think my first daughter was one year old, yeah.

Then afterwards...By himself a ring like this one?You know, go, go, the cultural wedding.Maybe they will return from this.I get an opportunity to go to a cultural wedding.Maybe they will return from this.

You know, you know, but I'm sure they know this.The stress is all quality vows.

Yeah.

It's another story, you know.So, I just this, I take you as my wife.I promise I will marry you.I promise I will take care of you.I won't leave you till death do us apart.Those sort of things.

You didn't do all of those things.

We didn't.I can't wait to see you at the White Wedding.anyway, so yeah.We are doing a white wedding or we are going to home affairs and what what.

Speaking about home affairs, did you guys sign at some point?No.That's it.How did you feel after the wedding?I'm sure you felt like you have completed most of, you know, maybe the apartment thing, but everything seems so...Because it's most people's dream to be with another person.

So if maybe there's this phobia, this fear, I don't want to have a child with another person.Because it's very difficult.

I'm not going anywhere.

Tell me about the first red flags.I mean, you've done everything that you can.You've been loyal.And loyalty sometimes, I wouldn't tell you if I'm a tomato, don't offer on a bag.But sometimes I want to fight as a woman.so many feelings, you feel like, but I'm not getting it fully.

There's just something that is just missing that I feel like this person is taking it somewhere.But when you saw those red flags, when was it and what happened?

my first daughter.I think I was nine months.Yeah, I was nine months because a week after, this is too much.And I was the one who was apologizing instead of him apologizing to me. I had that feeling, you know what, man, there's something going on there.Like I had that feeling, Carmen, no, no.Anyway, he used to lie too much.

But that day he was like...

You didn't tell him how much I'm coming?

Anyway, he was not...

Because there's no way that motua got like a 7 a .

m.Yeah, they were naked.Yeah, it's a holy busy, it's a holy busy.

So all of this, you didn't just experience it now?

Yeah, I didn't just.It's different, because when I was young, I didn't know what it meant to be a woman.Now I know what it means to be a woman.But I continue to be a woman.I am a woman.

So marriage cancelling, by chance, as a woman, to say...Nobody said anything like that to you guys?No.

Nobody said anything like that to you guys.

But it's not true, what would you do to live your life?

It's not real.Even if we fight, it's not real.That's why people are shocked.

So when you saw that, what did you do?

Maybe we are still girlfriend and boyfriend.

Just before the wedding, just before the wedding, how many red flags have you encountered?

No.

And this was your husband.It's somebody that you know.Robert Aley is not next to you.To him, you know.

Yeah.

Speaking about that, I mean, like, how about the Romotua Bonawachita?find it on the phone or the WhatsApp messages.Did you not get something like that?

It's okay.

It's okay.

It's okay.

I don't know if it's because of the change.Sometimes it's because of the blessing.Maybe it's because of the pain.The pain is what keeps me going.

I don't know if it's because of the change.Maybe it's because of the pain.The pain is what keeps me going.I don't know if it's because of the change.Maybe it's because of the pain.The pain is what keeps me going.

I don't know if it's because of the change.Maybe it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.

I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know if it's because of the change.I don't know early busy, early busy.

So as soon as you got ready to take the cherry on top.

Yeah.And things were worse.His first car.So he left on Friday.Maybe in Nakisetsi.Because I get in a car sometimes.

He left in Nakisetsi.He left.I arrived before noon, the whole weekend.Then half an hour, I was like, no, I can't leave the parents, you know.That's not a good job.

Was there a confession already?

Yeah, sometimes I confess that I am right -handed, but I don't like it when people judge me. I don't like it.I don't like it.

Do you ever hate someone emotionally?

Yes, I hate it.I hate it.I hate it.For sure, I've been in a relationship for eight years of my life.

You know, sometimes cheating can be too much.And sometimes...Okay.How crazy was this kind?

I don't know what was happening.Maybe he was taking advantage of her, looking a little too much.And the fear of raising the kids alone.

You didn't want the kids all by themselves.So you were scared of that?

I was scared of that.Because I didn't want to live without my parents.So I told myself, whatever my mother experiences, I don't want to experience it.Including the divorce, because I didn't want to divorce her.So I decided to leave her.

What's the craziest thing that you've encountered during this marriage when it comes to cheating that sort of like made you to say, you know what, I'm fed up with this?

This is too much.

I'm trying to understand what was the issue here.We saw your videos on social media and you were breaking out, girl.You were breaking out.

Then, ahan.Then, karma no, let me go through his phone.Maybe it will create something interesting.Then, aloha.Aloha.Instead of apologizing, no.

Aloha.Aloha.It was hectic.Everything.Then, I pick up my things.So, the remaining saga.

I'm sorry.No, let's fix it.That's okay.Yeah.Uh, as a clear contract, like Merica, so we didn't have money.Like he did not give it to you.

I can then February.Yeah.Okay.Cause I know transport.Yeah.The public transport.

We boner too much.you go sighting a lorraine a new born go critching cassava the eyethe lady was not there.But Deanna was at the lady's place.I saw that video, the first video that I posted on Facebook.

So that video, you didn't see it?

No, I didn't see it.I didn't conclude it.

You didn't conclude it?

I didn't conclude it.I didn't conclude it.

Sure.

So, I didn't see it.Then, I came home.But when we got home, we came back home together as if nothing happened.

Don't come here.

So I posted a lot of photos.And in February, I couldn't go to Nola.I couldn't go to Nola.Then I found out about the holidays.Another one of the holidays.I didn't know what to do.

I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.

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I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.I didn't know what to do.I didn't hospital then.Yeah.So can I keep that form?

Maybe not.My wife wants to kill me.This one.And remove.

Because you know, when and to many of us we think in that.Some people were complaining about rumu.

Abusing me. because most of the things he was doing, not the only thing that he was doing.Yeah.So not the big bills, but the water and electricity, anything.

Sometimes, no regret.

No problem.Then only to find out, forget.

like, hey, too much.

Yeah.

You don't think it's clean?Yeah.Maybe a small Polo or an Audi.Because you can imagine, like Porsches, at least you want to drive an Audi or a BMW.

Yeah, something.

Yeah.

But no, no, no.

All your men are driving a Porsche.

Yeah.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.

I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.

I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.

I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.I don't want to drive a Porsche.How much did you pay for the installation?

Over $15 ,000.Earlier in 2017, we saw the model, but we were paying over $15 ,000.

I thought you were going to pay more than $20 ,000.

No, I didn't.I promised.I promised to pay more than $20 ,000.

Is it because of, I don't know, to show off?

We are rich, we have houses, because I can move from this house to this house.

Maybe you just need a normal place to live.example, or maybe they don't go floating and plan accordingly.Most of the money is.

Okay.Listen, I think I'm going to remove it first, first re upgrade.

Oh, I see.

And then he deal with the contract.

So now let's up and down, up and down, up and down.

So here in the apartment, maybe we have a rake, then nothing can take it over.But still, all the bees can't take it over.

How do you manage?

We have three bedrooms, two estates, and two rooms.That's a lot.It's a big difference, but it's not a big deal.Even for females, it's not a big deal.

There's a point whereby news broke out on social media via your social media platform.And that was crazy.You guys are trending.The crazy thing is that I saw you, you were gaining so many followers.

Yeah.

I was like, hey, this lady is going to build a brand from here.But I think a lot of those followers were women supporting you.

Yeah.

You know, after what happened.And the crazy thing is that he was also gaining followers as well.You know, everything was okay.I thought, you know, but then it seemed like someone There was police again, and you were angry.I don't know what happened during that period.

I think it was a promotion or something for Miracle.So, Ariana, on August 13th, on Nali Mutuahai, I get in.I feed the police station in Bamutuara shop.Here in Bamutuara, then I attend the court.I had to go to Kusumamburu.The lawyer here, I'm sorry, your husband wants to come back home.

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I posted a video of a baby.I posted a video of a single mother, in, in, in, what, what, what, what.But they're not even married.They're commenting negatively.Yeah.Yeah.

So backwaters.

Yeah.You know, I was, I was also looking at some of those comments.I think you were gonna launch this book.

Yeah.

The, is that everything fine?It's fine.So you were going to launch this book, The Cost of Becoming His.And I don't know what happened.People were just coming at you hard.Like, yeah, there's nothing in that book, you know.

And I was so disappointed.And I was also asking myself questions like, I thought women were supporting this lady.This lady, I mean, got cheated on.multiple times.

Yeah.

Why do people hate you so much in the comment section?

I don't know.I think the time because you're from.And the ladies from the list, to be honest, I don't know.before Gitla cancels this one.Because Gitla is like almost 20 people, but people are still dealing for pre -orders before Gitla launches.So I had to refund them.

I couldn't believe it, there were already haters.

And most of them were high.

Do you think people, or some people that were jealous of your marriage, based on what they see also.

So, Mara, the comments are bad.I didn't get it next.Next, next, next.

So, last time.And I saw that video, I was like, this time around, this man is not coming back.When was that moment?

It was the day of the side check.So, I got up.Even though the magistrate was not there, you know what, I got up and went to sleep.So, way forward again, because this lady, we let this thing so that I can over freely.So, and then over to the bishop.My husband.

So, I give you the protection order.Okay, it's fine.Then he started calling the family, the brother.and I was the one who was paying the guest house because he was not working.I'll let that, yeah, but also, hi, give more video, Elia, I'm a producer.So now, I don't know, maybe glory, no, let's do it.

Let's fix, let's, let's try again.

It's been tough, man.

Yeah, it's been tough.And we, we, we used to fight in front, in front of our kids.

Yeah.

Another day, the kids were there.It was too much.It was too much.

Too much.

The only thing a lowering in good, we still would look at that day.I'm going to cry.I don't want to cry.Oh, okay.A little friendly another thing.Go daddy, we don't want you.

Especially the old one.She was like, go daddy, we don't want you.And then the second one, go daddy, we don't want you.

Were they angry?

Yeah, they were angry.You are beautiful.

Because it hits different when it comes from the kids.Those words, you look beautiful.Yeah.Yeah.

Yeah.I guess I really make up lessons, because now I'm trying to tell her, no, you can't see me in front of people.And I kind of go, I'm good.So her neighbor never recorded it.She was feeling relieved, but I was hurt.Because now I'm telling her, I'm here because of you.

Like, I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.

I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.

I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.

I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here because of you.I'm here We don't want you to go to the guest house.We don't cook.

You know, you are telling me you are a makeup person.And most of the time, when you put on makeup, you make sure you don't cry.I can only imagine how many nights you spend crying.

I used to cry every day.I remember Niki Loira, this other client of mine, Westview Makeup.Yo, give me makeup.Precious, what's wrong?

Oh, you don't know.

My life is a mess.And still, you lie.I'm telling you.I have another client.

I'm sorry, man.Precious.

It was too much.I don't want to lie.I survived.

You know, sometimes you are precious.You are also dangerous at the same time.Are you happy?Is this woman happy?Is this guy?Nice.

And if you're not happy, then they don't get to be sustained.It's like it's all because of I'm making my wife to have sleepless nights to make sure that my wife is happy.If she's happy, because you guys, your prayers are so powerful.

Yeah.

And I wonder how many times have you prayed, knelt down to say, God, why did you give me this man?

Yeah.I believe I'm a praying woman.

Because precious, the way that we look at your Facebook on social media, you put this person first.

Yeah, I did.

Post yourself, your dreams, those dreams.You had to post them and you had to put this person first.And I think that's what most women do sometimes when they're in a relationship.I get it.Don't sit out there.So it must work.

It must do all of these things.And you sort of pause yourself, especially when you have like three kids and you're having financial issues there and there.But then when that person.My question is that, has this person always been like this?Maybe in a way, waiting for the right resources to come through, then they can be exposed to say, this is who I am.

I don't know.Maybe I was ignorant.I don't know.Because my last born was January last year.I think that time I was eight to nine months pregnant.And that time he was not waking up.

So instead of unsupported, you know, when I come back, you know, that small things massage me or anything.Then I got admitted.And I had bookings for December.I had bookings for December.

Do you regret getting married to him?I know that you mentioned Ororata Lenyanu as a whole, but do you regret getting married to him?

I don't want to lie, but who knew?Nalena, like, own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own seniority in our own I used to communicate with his friend because I'm bloody like my husband.At least they check on them because he was too close, especially with the firstborn.We feel safe when we are with you.

That's quite disappointing, man.

Yeah, it's disappointing.

But one of that side of him and defend you, but now, you know, they never lie.

They never lie.

They always go to the safest place.But now they can easily get traumatized.You know, they can grab that.Even after 20 years, it can still ring into their minds.We could have had no soul, now that everything has happened.You've been through all of this.

It's been years and years of being cheated on.Kalola.Kalomova.Place to places.But how are you feeling now?

I feel relieved.I don't want to lie.Now I can sleep.I feel relieved.

which is i will get used to yeah yeah have you moved on have you moved on yeah that's good that's good i think i think you you deserve to be happy yeah i think you deserve to be happy what happened to you you didn't deserve that and i know that people And at the end of the day, we are also not trying to speak bad about your ex -husband.You know, you are just speaking your side of the story and how you felt, you know.And I'm sure Lianaka won't understand.He may want to come to speak on his side.But I think it's important for you to speak to him.

Yeah.

Especially when you have kids, your kids, they need you.And I'm sure you would do anything for them.

Anything, anything.

So why did you choose to write this book, The Cost of Becoming His?Was it because of the pain that you experienced in the marriage?

You know, I didn't want to write a book.Yeah.So this other company approached me.Yeah.The publishing company in approaches it, but whatever that was happening on the media.Yeah.

So my life, my marriage, everything.So I don't have to pay anything.They will do everything.Then I signed a contract with them.Then I was able to get pregnant.It was therapeutic because I was able to do everything.

I was able to get pregnant.I was able to get pregnant almost 90 % of the time in my life.

Do you wrote it in here?

Yeah, in the book.

Is that book available or maybe it will be available somewhere in the next couple of months?

Yeah, it will be available because now, the conflict between me and the publisher, so yeah.

Yeah, you know, hopefully it will be available.You're also running your own business as well.

Yeah.

You're doing nails.Yeah, you're also doing your hair installation.You're doing makeup as well.You will share the number with us so that we can put it down there in the comment section.You are based Kopituri, right?

Yeah, Pretoria, Montana.

You are doing house calls.

Yeah, I do house calls.

So people, they mustn't be shocked.You're notgonna come with a Porsche this time around.

Nah, people request.

Yeah.So you will show up as Gafila somehow.But yeah, I think, I think I'm sorry, man, about what happened to you.You're too much.But I am totally against that.And I believe that you will find healing.

If you haven't, but because of you've written this book, you know, you told me that you found some sort of healing.So I'm glad that you are here today and you are able to speak about this.I mean, the breaking story of what happened, I think it happened a couple of March.So if I'm not mistaken, and four or five months later, you are here and we can have this conversation.I guess it's a little convivial, but it tells me a lot about you that Unali, You have a very strong heart.This is Women's Month.

What would you say to women out there in South Africa?They are busy experiencing cheating, or they just found their partner who cheated.

But most of the comments from social media, they were telling me to choose myself.So I'm passing that message to those who have the same experience as me.So if you choose, you will survive.And they can survive, whether you are a woman or a man. I thought I wasn't going to survive, but here I am.I can survive with three kids.And now people can book me.

Yes, you are a DJ as well.

I am a DJ.And I can say now I can speak to women.Yeah.

Okay.

Because I want to go to the riverbank.

Yeah.

So they booked me for an event in Haiti on the 29th.

Okay.

So this month.

Okay.

Yeah.So I'm going to go to Montana.

Nice.Yeah.Yeah.

So I posted the poster on my media, my social platforms, I mean.

On Facebook?

Yeah, on Facebook.So they can buy a ticket.There's still time because they sell it in the ticket.

Okay, so you are an author, you are a DJ.I know you don't play my piano.I saw your video, you play soul.

Yeah.

But I'm sure you can juggle both.

Yeah, I can.

So you are a DJ, you are doing nails, hopefully at some point you'll become a makeup artist.Hopefully at some point you'll open a salon.We are praying that you open a salon.And people should book you.Then we will maybe take your email, put it down there so that people can book you if they want you.And I believe that people are going to do that as well.

Yeah.Even when they want to advertise your businesses on my page, it's still fine.It's still fine.Yeah.